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writes: Hi my girlfriend recently said to me that she felt she was ready to have sex. She is a virgin while I am not so I was really excited. The problem is I've never had sex with a virgin before and I am really nervous about being her first. I mean I love her so I'm not having doubt but I just don't want to do it wrong for her and I want it to be special. Have you got any tips or advice for popping a girls cherry ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 Lot's of foreplay, I'm talking at least 30mins or more. Try to wait until she is wet before you start. Keep looking deep into her eyes, she'll feel a connection and she'll feel loved, it will also allow you to work out how bad the pain is, and whether to go slow, fast or stop and wait for a while. Give her a bath afterwards, she will be sore. Kisses, lots of them all the time. Don't jump on her as soon as your alone, do some talking or slow dancing, massage her. Don't forget her arms, legs, back of the knees, places that aren't seen as sexual. That will make her feel that you adore her all over.
CONDOM!!!! First time sex is painful, a pregnancy or an STD afterwards is hell.
Good luck, and remember to relax and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): condums hurt?!?!?!?! im a woman and im sorry but now im nervous than ever! im still a virgin. my advice (sence im a virgin) is USE A COMFORTABLE CONDUM FOR U AND HER! omg........
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reader, supermum +, writes (4 March 2012):
 Make sure she is relaxed, do plenty of foreplay, use lubrication and take it easy. If she wants you to stop, then stop. If she wants you to go slow, then go slow.
Make sure you have a towel underneath to catch the blood.
And remember YOU CAN GET PREGNANT THE FIRST TIME YOU HAVE SEX!!!!!!!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (4 March 2012):
 Just go easy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 March 2012):
Bring her flowers, first......
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 March 2012):
 Your post is so lovely until the last sentence which is a bit out of touch with the rest of it :-)
Just keep asking her what she likes and you will be fine. I think it's so sweet you are concerned about making it great for her and so I have no worries that you will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): First I suggest you do not refer to having sex with your girl friend for the first time as "popping a girls cherry." Second, you should consider yourself very lucky and honored that she loves you enough to want you to the first person she sleeps with. Personally, I think you guys should seriously discuss it though. Make sure she's sure.
Take things slowly. Not just the sex but also the kissing and the foreplay. A lot of people skip the foreplay or go straight to the sex when it's their first time, but to get her really "excited" I suggest you not skip it. But don't just start doing things to her or expect her to do things to you without her explicitly okaying it.
Now on to the sex. Condom. Condom. Condom. Condom. Condom. TAKE THINGS SLOWLY. It will hurt her a lot, so use lots of lube. And go very very very very slow. Kiss her, make sure she's okay, tell her you love her, and from there see if things can go a little faster.
Afterwards, hold her. Make sure she knows you love her.
Be safe. Have fun.
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reader, landomando +, writes (4 March 2012):
I think you should bring her into the room and have some candles. Maybe give her a massage loosen her up, make her feel comfortable.. and it gets her turned on get some massage oil turn her on her back massage her back ,naked, if you feel comfortable. Massage her back and feet and shoulders.. start kissing her neck, making out exc.. I think she will like that and wont forget it! If its her first time gotta go big!!Make it a special day, dinner movie... just something she will remember!!!
Good luck!
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reader, Rylie-Ann +, writes (4 March 2012):
 If you add too much pressure it will go wrong. A first time is rarely ever good. Just make sure it's comfortable with no chance of interruptions and USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't stress that enough!!!!!!!
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