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writes:I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this girl now. Last year, she moved to another city with her family. She used to call and message me all the time. After 3months,she joined a college for her further studies. She became friends with a guy from her class. Since then, she keeps talking to him all the time. When I call her she says she's busy talking with that guy as she has an exam the next day and he'd clear her doubts.when I call her the next day she says she's tired and she wants to sleep. Whenever she had an exam she talks to him the whole night. When I call her , she says she's tired and hangs up. This has been going on for 4 months now. Whenever I get angry,start crying and start yelling at her for not giving importance to me, she hangs up and doesn't answer my calls the whole night. Next day she messages me saying that she loves me alot blah blah blah. Again After two days she stops replying my messages. She only talks with me like for 10 minutes a week. When I message her she replies for a few minutes and doesn't talk after that. Should I break up with her? Is it ok for a girl to behave like this in a distance relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Well, obviously it's not OK in your book for YOUR girl to behave like this in YOUR LDR. You have got to do what 's good for you, and if what you get from this LDR is mostly aggravation, frustration and anxiety, is probably high time to call it quits.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Yeah, she wants to break up with you, but is way too cowardly to do it herself directly. Her blowing off of you and talking about this other guy is to get you to break up with her so you can be the bad guy.
LDR's rarely work out, especially if it's open-ended like yours is. Best to end it now, grieve the loss, and move on and hopefully in time find someone local.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 July 2013):
Sorry dude, but she's obviously not mature enough to let you move on even though she clearly has.
When another guy is more important to her than you are, it's a good sign that all is not well.
Send her a message simply stating that it's obvious that your relationship isn't working out and so it's best for both of you to move on. Thank her for the good times and be done with her.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Yes get out of that now. More than likely shes with that other guy.
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