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*oshf
writes:Hey My ex gf broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks she should be single but still tells me she loves me, doesnt want anyone else and doesnt want me to find anyone else. She also questions me if i go out anywhere and gets jealous if anything is posted on my facebook.This confuses me because she broke up with me but acts like i broke up with her i dont know where i stand with her. I still love her but dont want to get messed around. Anyone have any advice?Thanks
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reader, joshf +, writes (2 March 2010):
joshf is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the answers I'm coming to terms with it all now and know that you are both right and I don't want to be a backup bf or strung along. Yet again thanks for the advice it's good to get other peoples opinions and perspectives.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 February 2010):
"You're a nice guy and if nothing better comes along then I'd like to keep you as a plan B."
"I also miss having someone to ring and moan at who will tell me I'm amazing, but boy is it fun being single. So how about we keep in touch and I can ask you advice on all my new boyfriends."
Tell her that if she wants to get back together then great, give you a call. If not, leave you alone as you are trying to move on and find a girl who will love you enough to want to be with you.
You can't let her string you along by saying she still cares... but not enough to be with you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 February 2010):
You're still clutching at straws. All she says is that she sees you back together. And given her behaviour so far that means nothing. Your best bet is to leave her out of it. All she wants is control over you. She doesn't want anything else.
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reader, joshf +, writes (23 February 2010):
joshf is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey sorry for another update but my ex just rang me and i was after some advice because I'm not quite sure if she wants me back or not. She told me things like my photo is still the wallpaper on her phone, also on her facebook page I'm still listed as her number one friend and I'm still mentioned in her about me and interests section. I thought she would of changed this by now as we broke up nearly three weeks ago.
She also still wants to go on a weekend away with me in the summer and say's that she is going to come home to visit me soon. She tells me things that she sees us getting back together and that she didn't want to make this decision but she had too.
Does she want me back or am I clutching at straws and she is just find the break up hard too?
Thanks
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reader, joshf +, writes (22 February 2010):
joshf is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone thanks for your advice. I should of put this in the first question but the main problem with the relationship was that we lived 250 miles away most of the year whilst she was at university. I have spoke to her the other day and we have talked over some things and i have agreed with her that it wasn't the right time for us.
It was hard talking to her but i have taken the advice from you and decided that for me to get over her and move on its best if we have minimal/ no contact.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 February 2010):
Just block her and tell her to get out of your life. This is just emotional abuse. No one who loves someone treats that person this way. She's just having a power trip. Tell her to clear off and get on with your own life. You can find MUCH better.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 February 2010):
You need to stand up for your self.
Send her a really nice message and tell her how you feel, but tell her you can't deal with all her mixed messages.
So ask her to cut contact with you if she is not going to get back with you.
If she doesn't reply within 24 hours then take the lead and delete her from your facebook.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, amyxii  +, writes (18 February 2010):
What do you love about a woman like that? She is trying to keep you, control you, use you for her own selfish ego. This is classic psychological abuse behavior. She wants to be free while she keeps you as her pawn. Do you want that? If you do, you got it. You may never smell freedom again. If you have any self-respect tell her goodbye and for good. After all, she left you. She doesn't deserve your love.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Block her from your Facebook, remove yourself from HER Facebook and let her be. Move on with your life.
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