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writes:I'm a 17 year old boy who is totally head over heels about my girlfriend who I have been with for around 5 months now but over the last 3 weeks things have become incredibly hard work. We used to enjoy having sex at every opportunity available; she would dress up in clothing from Ann Summers, dirty talk with me over texts, make me feel like she really wanted me but all of that seems to have gone out the window. There is no doubt in my mind that I love her but when we snuggle up in bed and I go to kiss her or stroke her tummy or anything remotely suggestive she instantly shrugs me off and goes in a mood with me. The sad thing is that I'm currently typing this whilst lay in the spare room of her house as we just had an argument about the lack of sex and intermacy currently in our relationship. Today is our five month anniversary and after not having any form of sexual contact for over a week I attempted (as always) to initiate some form of sexual contact only to be totally rejected. I'm scared of this becoming a routine and it leaves me feeling totally unappreciated, unloved and damn right ugly! What gets me the most is the fact that I would move the Earth for her if she asked me too and whenever she has needs (a head ache, hunger, help with work) I never fail to do what is needed however she seems reluctant to give me any form of gratitude. I don't want to break up with her, nor do I want to spend another night in the spare room feeling like a sex pest! Any form of help would be fantastic as I feel utterly clueless. Thanks a lot :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): U know nothing my gf says she love me but our relationship is dead. Were ain't married yet. We have a 7 month old babygirl. Like now my kid is sleeping. She 4 da week with me. I live with my mom. I'm sending her a sms 2 come cuddle with ne. She's telling ne know i just wanne spank her. It's feeling like i'm gonna go mad without SEX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): Get out NOW!!!! Seriously if you guys have been together only five months and the sex is starting to die out just think about one year from now. Once every two days turns to once a week, then every two weeks, it's fucking exponential.
I made the horrible mistake of staying with my ex for almost six years, four of which were pretty much sexless-- Biggest mistake ever! I felt the same way about her as you do hence the sticking it out for nearly six years part. If it doesn't get better after a few months chances are you are going to have many lonely nights if you decide to stay. I'm 24 and I'm just now living the life I should have at 21. Just my two cents but if the sex is not there your self esteem goes to shit regardless if the other part of the relationship is fantastic. There comes a point when the relationship starts looking like a roommate/friend situation and it sucks!
Getting down to the point if YOU are not satisfied in the relationship it is not fare to YOU. Things shouldn't always go towards making her happy (I sound like a jerk but it's true). When you bend over backwards for this girl to make her happy and she doesn't acknowledge the fact, then my friend you are putting forth too much effort and most likely it will get worse.
I’m rooting for you buddy!
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): Hey brother. I think it might be time to move on. I had the same problem and it won't get any better if she doesn't want to put the effort. I am 20 and I know it sucks but its life :( I wish I could change it for you but I can. I don't want to seem harsh at all. I would say just try again and if nothing happens just leave... If she is not wanting to have sex now she might not want to in the future and honestly, sex is a big part of a relationship. Good Luck Brother!!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Maybe she was getting the idea that your relationship was completly based on sex. You seem totally devoted to her, just make sure that she knows that. Be the sweet guy that she loves and it will all fall back into place soon.
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reader, mistakentragedy  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 Sometimes a girl just doesn't want to have sex. It's not as big of a deal to us as it is to you. I know if my bf tries to get me to have sex when I don't want to I get upset with him. I like to spice things up and make it a week or 2 before we have sex. I'm not that big into sex as I used to be. Some people are saything that something is wrong, that's not neccessarily the case, she may not want to have sex because she's tired of feeling that the relationship is all about sex.
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reader, Ameivaboy +, writes (26 May 2009):
There's usually something seriously wrong when they dont want to sleep with you for extended periods, just be thankful it's only one week instead of 2 like me hahaha
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reader, Ronaldron  +, writes (26 May 2009):
Mate.... need to know how old ur girlfriend is.
If she's the same age as you or close...tha'ts what teenage girls are like. This second they hav a huge interest in you , next second she'll totally ignore you.
Well firstly i'll suggest you to do something romantic...like just romance without sex...maybe she's a bit over with this passion sex thing and she wants somethign a bit more deep inside..morallly connecting...etc..eg. get her a bunch of flowers , prepare a dinner and then leave her place(DONT STAY)....tell her " i know that you need some space baby, i'll leave you alone, but just to remind you that if you ever need me i'm always around" stuff like that....well if things go smooth she should tell you what's wrong...
If that doesn't work .....
Well what i suggest you to do is back off, stop calling her, let her initiate the move.....well if she doesnt' come back to you for a certain period of time, it basically means that you guys are over... at least for now it's over...
I hav a similar situation but just that i didnt hav sex with my gf....but all the sudden she stopped all the sweet messages sweet calls.....etc....and i started to get pushy cuz she's not givin me an explanation and she got a bit pissed off and thinks i'm a hugger....i stopped contacting her for a while... trying to see things clearer...guess what happened...she's flirting with another guy now..and i know she's interested in him...cuz what she writes on her msn name is just like how we got together...hahaha...i was very silly liking a girl who's 17 while i'm in my mid 20s
oh well..i'm learnign how to move on now...i wish you good luck mate...
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