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writes:i just read a post that is similar to mine i have a girlfriend that broke up with me there is a age difference im 48 and she is 25 we met and have feelings for each other we have been together for a year and halfanyway she had a problem with drugs and tired to help her stay clean and she was doing good. her friend got kicked out of where she was staying. she ask she could stay with us for a few weeks. anyway her friend started stealing from me and my kids. i kicked her out and my g/f wanted to side with her. i didnt know they had a relationship at one time and my g/f left when i kicked her friend out. she has texted and said she love me but i need to prove myself to her saying if i really loved her i would bring her things to her so we can work on getting back together. i havent talked to only text from her saying that i am being controlling,possessive cause i wont bring her things to her. also says that i try to manipulate her i really do love her and would like for us to work things out but she demands me to bring her things to her before shes willing to talk any advice on what to do [Mod note: I inserted periods to make complete sentences.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): “there is a age difference im 48 and she is 25 “ You had an uphill battle in the beginning yet I see so many mistakes that you're making here. As a man of 48 you should know better yet your only thinking of just yourself and what will make you happy. Think of her (the one you claim to love) and the joy in her life.
“she had a problem with drugs and tired to help her stay clean” This was an amiable on your part and you should be commented for it, yet you cant expect to be paid back from things you do from people.
Druggies seldom get off of drugs together. You should have said no to that request. Why did you try to get her into treatment?
“she has texted and said she love me but i need to prove myself to her saying if i really loved her i would bring her things” She knows how you feel so she”s tell you that so you will bring her things to her. As a man you need to buckle up and take her personal belonging back to her. No one going to date you because your holding on to there things, actually it will work the other way. Give the girl her things. What if she was one of your kids and some had their property...what will you say to them.
“i am being controlling,possessive cause i wont bring her things to her” Here, you answer her here: “that i try to manipulate her” I will agree with you and her.
(any advice on what to do) Give this woman her things and if she really loves you she be back and if she doesn’t then it wasn't meant to be.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 October 2010):
 Give her things back to her and walk away. You don't need her crap and you certainly don't need the drama she brings. She likely has a problem, and it can be painful to watch those you care about destroy themselves, but you also don't want to expose your children to that stuff either. Pack up her stuff and give it back. I wouldn't try to work anything out with her, I'd be grateful I dodged a bullet.
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