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*harmedNoodles
writes:I need some advise please,I have recently asked a question and I have another please,It's to do with my girlfriend.She is always crying and stuff,she is like obsessed with her lately passed aunt.She's always going on about she misses her and she don't know how she can live without her and she feels like crap and she feels shitty (excuse my language).then too she is obsessed with MY sister,and it's the same thing she misses my sister and she wants her to come back and all kinds of stuff,I swear she misses my sister more than me =/I love her,nothing is wrong with our relationship,nothing at all,were both fine and perfect but,I need to know what to tell her what she can do to get over this,its holding her back,its holding her down,and it'll hurt her very badly :(I don't think I'd be able to live if anything were to happen to her,What should I do or say? and also,If ur reading this question along with my other one,I live UK and she lives Washington.We havent seen eachother in like,almost 7 years or more.but yes we are together,since recently. what do I say or do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CharmedNoodles +, writes (16 March 2010):
CharmedNoodles is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for the advise,especially Auntie E
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Perhaps suggest to her that she should seek bereavement counselling to help her move forward productively and also give her the skills to cope not only with people passing but with minor losses too.
She may tho just be one of those people who like to revel in their misery and dramatize things excessively coz they enjoy the attention/comfort that it causes others to give them.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Dear CharmedNoodles: Question: You are 16-17 and are the boyfriend of a girl you have not seen since you were about 9 or 10. Is that right? There could one of two problems with this girl. She is either a) seroiusly depressed in which case she should seek professional help. Or b) Seriously lacking attention. She is bascially crying all the time in order to get your attention. Why? Who knows. At your young age is this what you want? A girl that you can't physically see or touch or comfort? Think about that. Get back to me if you have any questions.
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reader, Riku Tsumi +, writes (15 March 2010):
oh my, that far of a distance and still together after 7 years, my major congrades on that accomplishment. As for her, tell her that you love her and that even though her aunt is gone she still has you and that you are going to try to help her through this. Also if you guys are both christian (as I am) tell her that he aunt is probably watching over her and that when she prays, ask God to watch over her aunt. Just support her as much as possible, I know it's hard to watch her greive but it's better than her holding it in. Tell her that she can talk to you about it when ever she starts feeling really bad and try to cheer her up, send her a home made card and chocolate kiss (if she likes chocolate, if she doesn't send her another small favorite candy, be sure to send this priority or else it'll melt and be all gross, oh and try to send the candy in a different box, that way the card and candy will arrive at the same time but you won't have to worry about the candy messing up the card) That's about the gist of my advice to you. ^^ I hope everything works out and you two get to see each other again ^^
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