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writes:My girlfriend and I have a good relationship but recently something has happened that is really not cool with me. I had to go to my ex girlfriend's place to tie up some loose ends. It's pretty involved so I just want to leave out unimportant details. I told my girl friend that I needed to go over there and she was fine. She asked me to come with me. I felt like she wanted to make sure nothing was going on. The next thing you know those two are long lost chums. This has been a couple of months now but what is bothering me is that they are comparing notes about me. They are talking about what I like in bed and I do not like this. For one thing I am one of those men that does not like getting oral sex. My ex did this for me and I didn't like it but I didn't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings. Now my current girl friend is trying to give me oral sex and I don't like it. Please I don't feel like I have problem where this is concerned, so I don't need anyone telling me what kind of technique for her to try on me. That's not a problem. I don't require or desire it. Also what is bad is that I used to have a problem with premature ejaculation. They have talked about this with each other and frankly I am very embarrassed and I want her to stop talking to my ex about this. My girlfriend doesn't act jealous and has actually had my ex over at our place on more than one occasion. I broke up with my ex because she accused me of cheating constantly that I couldn't stand being with her anymore. I never cheated on her but have strong evidence that suggests she cheated on me. I couldn't trust her. What will it take for my girlfriend to realise that how innappropriate her behavior is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): If you want her to understand what she is doing is wrong, invite her to read this post.
Gentlemen never "tell". And that applies to real ladies too! The thought of my partner and my ex sitting down and comparing notes about me, would be rather pathetic really. Id be inclined to tell them both to get a life! As for giving sex tips or whatever. Thats plain gross! Even if you did enjoy BJ`s...which you never have. Any guy would probably be put off them for life, knowing they were being given to him, under the instruction of an ex gf! Thats revolting lol.
Their "friendship" is based purely on a common interest. YOU! Your ex obviously has an agenda. Shes probably laughing up her sleeve as your girlfriend obediently repeats your private business to her all the time. Ask her to stop contacting this woman. If she wont, start thinking about moving on, because as Hopeful rightly says, its downhill all the way if they keep this "friendship".
In the meantime...ask your gf for the phone number of her most recent ex. Give him a call and start discussing your relationship with her and her sexuality. See how she likes that!! Good luck x
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reader, Hopefulbutlost78  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 That's quite the pickle, but i can tell you from experience, it only goes downhill from here.The fact that they know each other is bad enough,but you and your ex didnt split on good terms, and now theyre comparing notes?
First of all,that's pretty immature, that theyre gossiping about you like a couple of teenagers.Second,you dont want to be in a situation where you have an ex girl from your past giving notes to your present girlfriend.People change and its not really fair to be attacked in that manner.All i can advise is that you try to reson with your girfriend, and if that doesnt work, get rid of her.Trust when i say,staying in that situation is going to cause more problems than you could probably imagine.
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