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writes:I'm almost have one year dating with my girlfriend and the problem is that we don't see each other often.we might take about 3 months before seeing each other.my girlfriend is 18 years old but her parents doesn't allow her to go out for funny with friends and boyfriend (she is treated like a kid). We mostly communicate through whatsapp.this hurt me so much because I wish to spend much time with her.in addition I live far away from her.we had actually a very distant relationship.moreover I'm going to another country(Germany for my studies)and leaving my girlfriend here in Zimbabwe.I'm afraid that my girlfriend will be taken away by other guys.i love her so much.some people tell her to leave me and look for another boyfriend.these people include her friends they think that I may deceive her in the future by marrying another girl in Germany and forget about her.I'm in confusion now.i have no idea of what I can do.in addition when I meet with her we won't find enough time to discuss because we meet for few minutes. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 December 2017):
 One year is a long time dating someone at your age, however how well do you know your girlfriend? It sounds more like a cyber relationship than anything else. You need to be able to spend quality time together for any relationship to work, how many times have you both actually met up together in that year?
If you need to move to Germany then yes there is a high chance that this relationship won't work unless you both find a solution to the distance. You both need to talk about this. You both need to decide what you want and how it will work. It is sad that her friends are telling her to leave you, but maybe they can see that you both don't get to spend time together and therefore it will be hard for you both. You need to make a phone call with her and talk over your options. If you only get to see each other for a few minutes at a time it will make this relationship very hard to survive as you will both end up wanting more than a few minutes here and there and a few messages.
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reader, Bonniet  +, writes (11 December 2017):
I think the distance will cause this relationship to fade away even more because you don't see each other much. have you tried having a discussion with her via WhatsApp or even email? as I think you both need a good talk. Communication is key in any relationship and its affecting you now as you feeling insecure because you don't know what is going on.
I think you both need to have a good chat about your relationship I think the issue here is lack of trust and not seeing each other often so you both need to have a good chat about your future as a relationship
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