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writes: my girlfriend thinks 'I'm cheating which I'm not (also because its wrong) all because most of my friend are girls. I admit we can get a little flirty. But I'm trying to tune that down a bit. Why doesn't she trust me? I'm a not a two timer.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Hi, Your girlfriend may have a self-esteem problem, and it doesn't help her sense of self, if you are going to flirt in front of her. You said you were trying to cut it down, plese cut it down some more. Try being very affectionate to her, and do little unexpected things, like buying her one rose for no reason. Put little love notes, where she alone will find them. Show her by your actions, that she is the one you care the most for. Flirt with her, she will begin to believe you are sincere, and don't disappoint her. Some people need more reassurance than others. If you care for her, treat her special, everyone loves strokes of affection.
She will begin to return the attention you show her, and you should grow closer. Take care and stay in touch.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (3 August 2008):
 She probably has low self-esteem issues and sees your female friends as better rivals that can steal your love from her. She probably feels less than them and feel also inadequate as they may know you more than she does. She may think of them as way prettier than her and for this same reason she will also believe that you dislike her and think low of her. She might even think you and your female friends (or them only) may be making fun of her.
It's a normal thing that happens to many women out there. Self-confidense issues. It's a viscious cycle that not many woman realize it even happens. They think they don't deserve you, they get jealousy issues, guys try to be understanding but it eventually drives guys nuts. They leave her and she's devastated and feels she's in a tragic play. And everything happens all over again.
Now, try to have a deep talk with her. Be honest and sincere, and encourage her to be the same way. Address all the problems that you two are having, and try to find a way to resolve them.
And for her self-esteem issue, assure her that there's nobody for you than her. Make her feel pretty by both your words AND actions. Never cheat or do anything that will prove her belief. Try to restore her self-confidence.
Now good luck with your relationship with her!
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reader, muffy +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Okay,you can't help the fact that you have a lot of friends that are girls.I understand your a boy and like to flirt with girls constantly cause your filled with testosterone.Just let your girlfriend now that your not cheating on her and if she doesn't believe you then somehow prove it to her.If you want her to trust you then you CAN'T keep flirting.
I hope I've helped
Love always,Muffy
P.S.-If you have any questions then just message me3
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