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writes:Hey Everybody, i'm Ryan, Im only 16 years old. I'm so upset right now. I know it's a little awkward asking you guys for some help. I don't know what's going on between Us. I've been with this girl for 1 year and 3 months. IN our 6 months together We often go out together. We were so good. But suddenly she had to move out of town. Her Family had to go to London, faraway from my place. Because her mother works there So she continued her studies there. Then We had this talk, that we will never give up our relationship because i know i need her and i love her, so does she.She told me this line "i swear baby we can make this last"(yeah right)So When she went there I emailed her, It was summer so we oftenly chat on yahoo messenger, we also view webcams each other for like everyday. But for me it's little hard cause Our time here was 2-3 am. That's the only time She can use computer there. So i sacrifice my tiredness. naturally, there had been times that both of us fight a lot idk because maybe we just miss each other but it was never a problem because we always solve the problem together, But there had also times, To certain extent, That we had to break up. I mean space or something. But we made it through all that, all the breakups. We Still had in on it. Our Love with each other. Then after a few months She went back home.as soon as possible, i decided to see her. And When i saw her. It was like UHhH! idk, i just can't wait to say to her that I missed her a lot. A lot I tell you.So we spend time together. it's like every second counts. But it was only 3 weeks, Cause she had to go back to london.So we continued our LDR. Until Our relationship slowly falling apart it's like i couldn't something about it.IDK maybe Because I think that She's dating other guys, and sometimes she thinks of me too,vise versa.So that really was pretty much the Biggest fight and dissagreement We had I guess? We also fight in her birthday. So i greeted her, I told her happy birthday. it was a rough fight so i had to act like not special for her. i was to upset, i feel sorry.And Next She's acting a little weird. On chat. I'm asking What is her problem but she open it up. So I was somewhat nervous. Cause i Don't even know if she's ok or not?Until she was back to normal.We chat webcams. She seems happy everyday so does I. And after that I'm kinda busy with my studies so i had no time to chat her every single day Like i told you i can only talk to her 2-3am but sometimes if she's early maybe 12 am. And then She was busy too..After a few weeks I emailed her. But there was no reply. the Next day I emailed her again But then again there was no reply. Until the routine continues, I didn't even get a single reply from her for about 3 weeks. Until I received a message from her She told me She was SICK! for 3 weeks? then i just told her "get well soon" So we argued stuffs like her time with me, including the sickness thing. I mean what was that all about.i care for her. I just want the truth if she had no time for me because like this like that tired of LDR And then She's asking me for some space? EVEN WE ONLY CHAT EVERY SINGLE MONTH? Or maybe TWice If lucky 3times a month. I told her that But She told me that she needs more than that. so she really had to let me go.BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T KNOW WHAT SHE FEELS ANYMORE.SHE's NOT anymore sure with me. JUST LIKE THAT? CRAP.SHOULD I fight for her or GIVE the freedom she wants?If you read this all. I thank you for your effort and care.IF anyone is willing to give me advice please do so.-Ryan
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 No dont fight for her the more you contact her the more you will push her away believe me. She has clearly asked for you to give her space and this is what you must do if there is any chance that this can be saved you need to listen to her and respect her wishes. Let her be the one in future to contact you. Dont contact her first. Give her the space that she needs.I understand that you were both getting on well the first six months of your relationship until she had to move to london. Off course the distance is going to cause trouble for you both. You need to trust each other a lot for long distance to work and I guess that maybe this is whats causing the both of you to argue a lot. Im not saying LDR's dont work but have you both talked about what the next step is. I mean are you going to move over there or is she going to come back to you. These things should be well planned out.I guess for now you need to accept that she is confused and unsure about the relationship at the moment. So concentrate on living your own life for now. Goodluck.
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