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*LamentedxAmourx
writes:My girl is acting funny. Last night on the phone I tried to fix our relationship problem, but she said she was "too tired" to keep talking. I called her back shortly after words, because my mom unplugged the phone because we went over the hour time limit. She did not at all sound tired, and had enough energy to yell at her mom an stuff. During the phone conversation, she blew me off for her friends for Halloween. The same friends that make her sad, and she was originally suppose to come with me. After I said I could get dropped off and picked up so I could go with her, she kept making excuses to make it seem like she did not want me to go. I told her, "Well, you would have more fun with them anyway." She told me, "Thanks for caring." Like, I did not care that she wanted to go with her friends. Almost as if trying to make me feel bad because she blew me off. Back to the after my mom unpluged the phone and I called back conversation, she was wide awake. Now for some reason she asked if she could, "Stop by and say hello." She would never just come over and say that, she would almost always try to find a way for us to see eachother. I fear she is coming over to break up with me. Mostly, because of preveouse problems I posted ealier. When I tell her I am always 100% honest with her, she always waits a few seconds, a pause, before she would say the same. I just do not get it, and her coming over to "Say hi." is happening in less that 30 minutes. It is 11:35 now, so if she does break up with me I will ask what to do now. Why do you think she is acting so weired lately? Is it me? Does she have another girl or guy? I guess she might tell me if she breaks up with me. So I will keep you posted on the problem, because I will need ALLOT of help if she does break up with me. This is the love of my life, and I do not know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, LethalInjection-x  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 "Too tired" could mean a variety of things. I know I've said it on several occasions with my boyfriend. She could have generally been too tired. Or maybe she didn't want to talk about it at the time or even she wanted more time to think about it before indulging in a full blown discussion with that as the topic. As for "blowing you off" to go with her friends, well, maybe she just wants to spend time with them? Most girls stick to the "friends before boyfriends" rule at that sort of age anyway. If she wanted to spend time with them, it's understandable that she wouldn't want you there.. as she does need time with her friends afterall.There's no way of knowing why she's been acting the way she has been without actually asking her, as she's the only person that knows. I gather it's over 30 minutes since you've posted the question, I hope she didn't break up with you, as you seem to really care about her.If she has however, and want more advice, feel free to message me :]I hope this was helpful.Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Sound like you are suffocating her. You can't watch her 24/7. And like she paused before speaking, so what. She was probably thinking shit this guy is too intense.
Remember your mind is your own, don't tell her your every thought.
Back off a little, next you will be analysing her change of clothes, her new hair cut, she was on the phone 22 minutes yesterday only 21 today.
If shes going to leave you she will, you can't stop that. But your actions are driving her away, I don't know if pulling back can change that, it maybe too late.
But its a lesson learned for the future. Play it cool even if you ain't.
Good luck
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