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writes: My girlfriend is a virgin and will not have sex until she is married. I respect her and her wishes. But I want her so bad it's killing me! I don't want to cheat on her but I have urges what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): what ever you do, do not cheat on her. that will only make everything worse. the idea is to get closer to her and earn her trust, not make her angry? most girls who have these morals stand very strong on them. i highly doubt you will get sex out of her. which, if that's the only reason you have a girlfriend, apparently you're with the wrong one. find a hooker. relationships aren't all physical. that's part of it, but mostly its finding a deep connection with someone. notice, those who have very hands on physical relationships, don't get along as well as those who are connected. earn the trust and understanding, and eventually she'll come around. maybe not sex, but possibly other things. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I don't see how a handjob would be that big of a deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Wow... I didn't think women like this still existed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): My goodness sir, the Lady is giving you the most wonderful
gift a woman can give to her husband. It is well worth the wait. It is something you will never forget. Just Praise the Lord for a True Godly LADY!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): how long have you guys been dating?
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reader, evas +, writes (21 June 2008):
IF you love and respect her, then you'll wait. society has sex all mixed up and misplaced. Wait til your married because if you don't , you'll cheapen it. You'll rob you and her of something special. There is more to a relationship than sex, and if that is all your after, thst's all you'll get. OH, and the possibility of having a child that you may or may not be ready for.Don't let your body do the thinking for you. You and her, the relationship between the two of you is more than just a 5 minute act of passion.God bless you both and I pray you do the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Thanks for the advice. She will let me touch her but not below the belt area. She will not touch me below the belt ethier. Oral is out of the question! I think it's best to go with the cold showers! I will not cheat on her i'm starting to fall for her. It's realy hard not to cheat sometimes because of girls that like me and are willing but they are kind of slutty so I try to stay away. I don't want to hurt my girlfriend she is diffrent from them more classy. I don't know if we will get married but because i'm falling for her it's a possibility.Thanks for the advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Ask her if she would do other things before she is married. If she would touch you.. Let you touch her, that kind of thing.
Tell her how you feel. Just what you've told us... Except leave out the part "I don't want to cheat on her"... It'll probably hurt her because it could imply that you've thought about it.
Good Luck. Let us know how you get on so that we can work at it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Okay.. Well you can do alot more that actually have sex.. You can have oral.. Thats always fun.. you can touch eachother.. You just gotta sit her down... And honestly tell her what you think... ask her if shed do anything besides haven sex.. And I no you want to have sex already.. But you seem to respect her.. [Modnote:email removed]
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): We all have our urges. That's why we take cold showers. It's a guy thing. Waiting till the wedding night is kinda special, something you won't regret. Just take care of those urges when you need to, and be sure to clean up the mess afterward.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I suggest porn and masturbation.
Don't cheat, that will just destroy your relationship with her completely and please, don't pressure her because you're horny and she's able to abstain from sex. (After all, women don't hit their sexual peak until their 30's)
Take care.
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