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writes:my gf wants me to finger her since shes starting to give me bj's but i have no clue what to do lol... and ive read it up on the internet but it sounds complicated do you think she'll show me? or does she expect me to know how D:
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): tasteofindia gave some great advice. just be SURE to trim your nails short and clean your hands, and be gentle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): well considering you're both 13-15 i'm assuming you're both virgins, and from the way you wrote your question you sound innexperienced..which is prefectly okay!! i'm simply pointing it out, because one of the last entries said you needed to find her g'spot...which for a virgin is PAINFUL.
i'm a virgin as well and when my boyfriend fingers me, i only like him to actually have his fingers near my actual vaginal opening is when he's getting them wet so he can massage my clit...
personally i like it when things start slow but speed up...don't push too hard or it is painful...circular patterns with your fingers around the clit are good.look at one of your knuckles and practice pressing hard enough so that you feel it but not so hard that its a lot of pressure on your knuckle..it should be more like tickling than anything....
remember, if she can't get wet enough first go, try using a bit of handcream, it will be SO much better for her..and be VERY gentle and careful with putting fingers inside of her...if you DO go very slowly...and ask her how you're doing! dont' be afraid to say show me how...get her to put her hand on top of yours and move it how she likes
good luck, be safe okay!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 I'm sure she'd be more than happy to show you if you ask her. However, if you really just want instructions, here you go:
Put your hand between her legs, use one finger to explore, pet - gently. You don't need to be forceful with a lady... remember, oral sex is our favorite, so pretend that your finger is your tongue and gently explore. When you can feel her body relax, you can slip your finger inside of her. Ask her how she likes to be touched because all women are different - some prefer if you stay on the outside, some like you on the inside. Some prefer a nice combo. Remember, the G-spot is inside the vagina, about 3 inches in. You can find it by inserting your fingers and then making a "come here" motion with your finger.
Don't get too aggressive with your fingers. There's no need to shove three fingers up at once - maybe if she's into that and you've been playing with her for awhile to get her nice and ready. But don't just go for it! The last thing you want to do is hurt her.
MOST IMPORTANTLY: PLEASE, please, please, PLEASE wash your hands and clip your fingernails. Nobody needs hangnails and dirt up in their va-jay-jay. Hygiene is so important when it comes to sexual activity!!!!!
Okay, my dear. I hope that your girlfriend is happy to masturbate in front of you or at least take your hand and show you what she likes, but if you're flying solo - I hope my instructions helped a bit!
Good luck!
xx India
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reader, zebrastripey +, writes (19 November 2008):
Ask her how to do it. I'm sure she'd be well happy to show you the ropes. :)
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reader, XxHollyWoodsxX  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 If you just asked her i'm sure that she would understand and maybe you two could have some fun experimenting togther
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