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writes:i've txted my ex girlfriend tonight and now she say's she deserves to be on her own what does that mean?i txt my ex tonight to say sorry for kissing her (which she pushed me away) i said sorry and she said " don't worry about it i only pushed you so i wouldn't fuck your head up " i txt her back saying she could never fuck my head up and then i told her i would wait till she was ready for a r-ship i even said i would wait 5 yr's for her. she txted me back saying " i just think that u sould be with someone who will be nicer 2 u then i was 2 u and i deserve to be on my own " what does that mean?i did txted her back saying" you don't deserve 2 be on your own i deserve you i don't want no 1 else i want u i'm gonna wait 4 u da day u get someone new then i will move on your da only 1 " do u think i'm saying i'm desperate 2 her? i want her in my life i don't care if i have 2 wait 20 year's 4 her i will wait. she's worth the wait . i'm only 25 i'm not saying i want another r-ship i just want sex and i can get that anywhere i'm not good looking but. load's of girl from my town just go home 2 guy's home's for fun. why can't be 1 of them guy's that sleep around waiting till my ex come's back.my ex is 20 year's old.any help would be great thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): Whoa.
I don't think you or the EX are both emotionally capable of having a healthy relationship until you both can overcome or at least deal with all the abuse, turmoil, and violence you have in your lives.
I understand you both want for a better life, a life that sees you both happy and fulfilled. That whole white picket fence, apple pie, and a dog and 1.5 kids. Believe it or not; this doesn't happen to the best of us.
We can have a chance at that whole concept by making ourselves healthier, stronger mentally and emotionally by getting counselling.
We have all experieced life and it's hardships and will continue to do so and we need that extra support, that listening ear that you don't seem to have.
Please seek some individual counselling. I know that in my city we have a few walk in clinics that are free so look into if you have similar programs.
You sound in need of direction and that would be a good place to start.
It's tough as hell to be someone strong for another when you, yourself are struggling.
Take care and God Bless.
Peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey Malyce_Synn72
yeah i get what your saying and i think i still gonna wait why she was everything. we had a good r-ship thing's only went wrong because i think we tried 2 soon for another baby. she had a miscarriage. i stood by her all the way the doctor's and nurses told me 2 go home at the night time i didn't i stayed. i didn't go home for 3 day's and 2 night's. while they put blood in my ex.
the other weekend my brother & my ex was dancing on the dance floor in a pub we went to. and he put is hand throw some girl's hair and my ex nearly was fighting because the women my brother put is hand throw her hair kicked off saying how she going to kick is ass and my ex's.
i told the women calm down and her husband. my ex thought i was standing up for the women and said " don't talk 2 me " and when we got home she said the same and my older sister kicked off. started shouting at her. i told my sister to back off. and in the end my sister wouldn't.
it ended up my older sister was fighting with my ex and my brother falling down the stair's (which he as a problem with is back and will not have it checked over) and my sister's boyfriend putting is hand's on my ex as well i stood up against all my family and 2 week's later i get dumped. so in the end do u see why i'm not letting go so quick?
i took my ex over all my family and now she's actin like it's no big deal.
i love her more than anyone in my family and always will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): I find it harm to swallow that you can in one sentence breath undying love and wait for her for 5 years (how did you come up with this number?) and then later ask "why can't I be 1 of them guys that sleep around waiting for my ex to come around?"
She may be telling the honest truth in that she believes she is no good for you (which is why she is acting the way she is..devaluing herself and pushing away any chance of getting close to someone; in this case you and with it pushing away a chance of happiness) and it is better for her to be on her own. This last statement because when you are on your own and only responsible for yourself...you don't have to worry about anyone else but yourself and therefore...you don't have to commit, be intimate, work and sacrifice, and you don't really disappoint anyone which will hurt them and have you hurting.
Am I making any sense so far?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey Malyce_Synn72
you said some word's that i don't even understand 1 bit.
like = abusive, pegged
please explan what u meant.
to me the txt's said she's sorry 4 breaking up with me but u seem to see another thing. and i would love to know what u see another set of eye's never hurt 1 bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Wow...she has some issue and guess what, so do you. This reeks of dependancy and emotional manipulation.
She is being abusive to you and you are taking it. I kid you not.
Why would you desire someone like that? And may I say...she has you pegged; people who are abusive know how to pick their victims.
Pick up a book by Beverly Engel...it is a good read and will offer you insight into yourself and teach you how to avoid abusive relationships.
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