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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. She broke up with me two days before my 17th birthday and told me that she wants to go do the things that i would never approve of such as doing drugs, smoking weed, and getting drunk at parties with people she doesnt know. She said that shes felt that way for five months but actually went out of her way to persuede me that nothing was wrong. We were talking about the first time having sex right before we broke up and she told me that she doesnt relate love with sex at all, therefore, I told her that I didnt want to unless it meant something to her. Anyway, we had a silence for weeks and then we started talking again. we were goin good and understanding each other and telling how we felt, though the whole time and how we feel about each other now. She kept telling me that she was doing this to find out what she wants in life, when i found afterwards she was arguing with her friend in messages before and admitted to doing a bunch of things that she said never happened. So she lied to me and now we're not talking again. I keep having thoughts about our sexual relationship though. I saw condoms in a store and I kept picturing in my head her having sex with someone that shes been hanging around with lately because it doesnt mean anything. The other thing is that I had a dream that there was a room in a basement and there were four chairs in there. She was siting in a towel on the chair facing the door, with the towel wrapped around her, but under her breasts so they were exposed. A guy that shes been hanging out with lately, sitting on the other chair in the room facing her. When i came in, she covered her breasts like she didnt want me to see and she was wearing the towel like that for the other guy. I felt bad, but then i went to go hang something up for her laundry, so i went and hung it up. I came back into the room, and again, her breasts were exposed, along with her sister in the chair next to her. They both covered up and put their feet on the chair with them, (puttin their knees to their chest) they were both still wearin towels and nothing underneath. I asked what she was doing and she just smiled and said nothing and thats when I woke up, because i felt so bad. I keep thinking like this and I dont want it to hurt anymore even though i love her, but know that what she felt for me was not real, it was a one way relationship. Just seeing if anyone has any thoughts or suggestions for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): I have been told that dreaming about a house means that you are trying to clean house in your own soul or mind, trying to process and organize your thoughts and feelings...the fact that she was in a basement and barely covered by a towel but exposing herself to another man means that you see her as willing to give away her body to a stranger, but when someone she knows intimately like you walks in, she covers up and is closed off....her sister is probably the bad influence in her life, or she is the bad influence for her sister....Back to reality---she is wanting to experiment with sex and drugs and does not have anything to give to a relationship of friendship with you...the fact that she broke up with you two days before your birthday shows she is very self centered....you might just want to let her go and move on with your life if being her friend is too costly emotionally to you....take care, man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): I'm really sorry man. Don't let it sit on you, I know it's hard after 2 years, but if she's gonna choose casual sex and drugs over a 2 year relationship, she's not worth it. I smoke pot, and drink and party, but I know when to keep a serious relationship. If someone wants to do risky things such as drugs and partying, they need to know how to keep that in balance with their love life, and she obviously can't do that. Have a couple drinks, don't sweat it, and find someone else who really cares about you and being in a relationship with you.
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