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writes: im a 27yr old male and my girlfriend is 25yr and we have a 1.5yr old son. In the last couple of months we both have had a bit of stress. She seemed to think that me going off to work was a party everyday and that she was stuck. I said to find a job 0.5 a day to a full time 5 day job and i`ll quit and stay at home. So that there is someone always home and there for my son. She cooked home-cooked meals for a week then on the Friday i went to work and as a surprise, organised a week off work, to come home and find a note and empty house. I love her and miss her but she says she feels controled or intimidated. Cos my reaction when angry is loud. And lately i`ve stopped yelling and would go to another room with my son but she followed.Now i dont know what do?with house?girlfriend?son?job that created lots of stress?She doesn`t wana consider me for a year or so? I struggle to get through the day and the only thing keeping active or alive at the moment looking after my son.Which out of the 7days of this ,ìve looked after him5-6 days`.Any suggestions anyone??? Reply to this Question
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reader, deamon +, writes (25 September 2006):
 well all i can tell u to that is im 21 my g/f is 19 we have a 8 month old boy and well things are looking about the same cept she and i both work and well she is just growing distant from me !!! my best advice would be !!! JUST BE THERE FOR UR BOY NO MATTER WHAT!!! u know it takes a man to be a father and it takes someone special to be a daddy and well my friend sounds to me as 5-6 out of 7 days u could be concidered to be a daddy !!! so keep ur boy going and never never never take time from ur son !!!!
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 There are plenty of women out there that once they have a baby slowly feel like they are losing their life and everything they had in it and there is only so much daytime TV you can watch, washing and housework you can do and life becomes really boring as it feels like you are doing the same things all the time, and never seem to leave the house but she needs to work out what she wants and do it as you've offered her to go to work instead and you are trying to do what you can to help but in alot of cases the woman doesn't want to go to work or anything like that they are just letting off steam and you are the closest one to be able to do that too as she probably feels everyone else has it easy.
All you can really do is ask her what she wants and what you can do to help and support her and tell her you want to help and do as much as you can to make things easier for her, but be prepared for the fact she may not even know what it is she wants to do to get herself out of this rut she feels she is in.
Good luck :o)
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