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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I need someone.s help! My girlfriend broke my heart and she doesn't see why.Well, my ex keeps trying to message me and my girlfriend .(They were friends for a long time ago) This ex has lately have been causing problems and I try to ignore her (my ex) and I only reply to her with quick, to the point messages. Then this ex sends messages to my girlfriend basically saying she was there first and knows my family better. My girlfriend wants me to send her a message saying not to talk to us again which I'm all for, because I don't want this ex in my life ever again.Well my girlfriend was talking about it all and she was like "she's getting so annoying, its getting to the point where if she keeps this up then there's no way I can be happy being with you", and then "it feels like im getting in between you and her".This felt like a dagger in my heart because I love my gf with all my heart and she basically said she would just end things like that! For some reason, it feels like she thinks I'm to blame for all this and I want NOTHING to do with my ex! I feel betrayed and I feel like she doesn't love me that much to do that.If I was in her exact situation I would be upset about all of it and be mad at her ex but I would stil love her and want to be with her until the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): Yeah, I have been in her shoes and heard all kinds of excuses from him why he couldn't get rid of her, but the thing is he would do like you do and message her back just to find out what she wanted, and he also did not seem to mind talking to her sometimes because they know a lot of the same people from the past and she loves to gossip.....so I felt very harassed and frustrated and he told her in front of me never to contact him again, and she still did after a couple of weeks any way.
I did end up leaving him, over that and the other issues that it created in our relationship. I am now prosecuting this girl for harassment. Mean? I don't think so, she has harassed me for almost two years and I ain't taken this lying down I have warned and warned and warned her myself let alone his too late demand for her to stop.
Don't be mad at her for saying to you that she will leave, three is a crowd and she should never have to put up with that from one of your exes for any reason what so ever and you really are the one who should take the legal action if that is what it takes....let this ex know under no uncertain terms that you two are through! Stop all contact immediately or else! What she is doing is illegal, it is harassment IF you have repeatedly told her to stop it and she won't.
This ex I dealt with loved to talk badly about my guy and worked on eroding trust between us, and she would criticize him to me and criticize me to him and really try to work on his head.....she was awful! Worse than any fatal attraction movie ever made!
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