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writes:Hi,i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We have been through everything together. She even stayed with me through depression. I vowed i would NEVER cheat on her because she IS the one. I love her so much.Last weekend i went out with some mates of mine and got very drunk. Most of my mates are single so they were dancing with girls etc on the dancefloor. Now i know this is no excuse but that kind of made me want to do the same and just have a laugh. I got dancing with this girl and one thing lead to another. I know it take 2 to tango but must admit she launched herself into me and i "received" the kiss.I woke up the next morning and couldn't believe what i had just done, i felt sick to the stomach. I rang my girlfriend right away and had to tell her. She is deeply upset and so am i. I feel so guilty so i should but i can't believe 5 minutes of serious drunken behaviour can end this. I love this girl so much. I can't even remember what this girl in the club looked like. There is only one girl for me and that's my girlfriend but i feel that i don't deserve her because i know that she wouldn't do anything to me like that and i just feel that something has broken now...If you have any advice or help on this matter PLZ don't hesitate to respond. Thanks.
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reader, heartless420_1  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 I have very mixed emotions on cheating! I waited 10 months for my husband to come home from Iraq, he was home for 3weeks and had an affair on his lunch break and my world came crashing down!We have a son who is 3years old. If you really love her you need to show her. Many ways to do that marriage councelling/ councelling would be a good first step. If you really do love her you need to try and work through this. best of luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheers guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Hello,
It seems like you've done this one pretty much by the book. My one suggestion would be to drop all of the defensive "but really she kissed me" business. It's not helping you in the slightest.
Talk to your girlfriend honestly about how you feel about her. Explain that what you did was stupid and that you seriously regret it. Explain that you love your girlfriend very much and want to be with her if she is willing.
Also, "How can I regain your trust?" might not be a bad question to ask.
Lastly - your relationship might end over this and that's truly unfortunate. Try not to be hurtful or lash out at your girlfriend if this happens, because that will definitely kill any chance of her eventually coming around.
Best of luck mate.
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reader, Aunt ~ Em +, writes (27 October 2008):
 At least you've come clean, you realise you did wrong and hell, you didn't go any further than a kiss. She'll understand that, and respect that you were honest. But you'll have your work cut out getting her to trust you again. You need to sit and talk with her. Because awful as it is, she'll feel like she has the right to go and do the very same too. So salvage it while you can, buy her a MASSIVE bunch of flowers and vow not to drink as much for the rest of your life. Invite her out up town with you, or limit how often you go. Whatever it takes to make her comfortable again.Best of luck to you.
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