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writes: Ive known my girlfriend for bout a year now and i was crazy about her from the moment i saw her. She liked me to but she was going out with somebody at the time. She eventually broke up with him and went with me. She broke up with him bout 2 months ago and since then she hasnt heard a word from him.......until this weekend when he called her.She was kinda unsettled by it. They were talking on the phone for 4hrs and she told him that she wasnt gonna take him back. But she never told him that she was going out with me though coz she figured it'd be too much for him to take. She wont get back with him so im not worried about that but he asked her could he call her agian and she said ok. Im not happy about that at all, its upsetting to me, but i figured one phone call in a few months wont hurt so i didnt try tell her what to do. But today he sent her a txt and asked to meet up. She said no but now i think hes gonna keep contacting her.What should i do? Should i play it cool and leave it up to her? I mean in fairness shes been great about this, shes been upfront with me about everything. I trust her completely but at the same time im not at all happy about my girls ex talking to her. She says she feels sorry for him that hes upset and needs someone to talk to but i think maybe he needs to talk to a therapist not my girlfriend. How do I handle this one?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): I think you two need to have a good chat. Tell her exactly what you have told us. Put her in the picture. If you smile sweetly she will think that all is ok. Tell her you aren 't chuffed about this situation and don't feel comfortable with it even though you know she wouldn't do anything behind your back. she is being up front and honest about it all and probably talk to him in all innocence. But i do think she should of told him about you. I find that part a bit odd and i would mention that to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): Suggest to her that if SHE's really upset by him calling and texting her like that, maybe the best thing she can do is change her mobile number (its what I did). Instead of doin the softly softly approach with him - be honest and tell him about the 2 of you been a couple...
I kno from experience cos my ex boyf was like that with me for 10months after breaking up & even tho I was with some one new it didn't matter to him!! All he wanted was for us to get back 2gether!
Best of luck with things x
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reader, Wisha  +, writes (18 December 2006):
 A tricky one. Its great that you trust her, and she obviously has nothing to hide as she is being so open about it to you! You sound like a genuine guy, dont be scared to share your feelings with her. Let her know how much you trust her, but also let her know that your not happy. If you dont tell her, she wont know and if you bottle it up you might explode and cause an argument that wasnt worth causing!!! Honestly i dont think there is anything to worry about! Good Luck, have a good christmas Wisha x
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