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writes:I met my girlfriend in May 5th, 2006 the day her husband went to vacation in the carribean. We had sex the same day, she has told me they were heading to splitville. When her husband came back from Haiti, I was at the airport and I saw them kissing, i have said to myself what kind of differences can they have? June 29, of the same year I have decided to go to the Dominican Republic for two weeks, she told me she would be in vacation she wanted to go with me, I said no problems, I was living in NY, and her in MA, I met her at JFK airport and we board the same airplane to the island nation. After two weeks, we came back to the United States, I went to NY, she went to MA three weeks after she informed me she was pregnant, as she has told me she was heading to splitville with her husband, I said ok let's have the baby she refused and had an abortion, and the husband did not notice anything. She has drive the husband nuts umtil he abandon the house leaving behind his three year old daughter. This is when my conscience start kicking me. I really feel bad, I should not be with the woman, but I did not have a choiceI wanted to be a father figure for her daughter. After a year I moved with her and her daughter, and suddenly she became pregnant again and now we have our (my) own daughter. Great!!!!! now two daughters one from her husband and another one from me. One day I was cleaning the house I have found few letters fron one of her exes... I became curious I read most of them, and certain of them were very recent. When I spoke to her about it, there was nothing between them. One day, she forgot her e-mails on and I read some e-mails, I have found out my GF is a massive cheater. She goes to vacation all the time with other men, or messing around with other people when her partners are at work, but she usually portray herself as a moral character, which obviously she is not. I moved out, but not too far because I want to be part of my daughter's life. But she is trying to do her best to keep me away from the two girls.... What kind of person is she?
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Get a lawyer. Get your daughter. Get away from her.
People who act like this are poisonous.
For your own sake, get out as fast as you can.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Your post reminds me of a story I grew up with:
A Cherokee Legend
The little boy was walking down a path and he came across a rattlesnake. He asked, "Please little boy, can you take me to the top of the mountain? I hope to see the sunset one last time before I die." The little boy answered "No Mr. Rattlesnake. If I pick you up, you'll bite me and I'll die." The rattlesnake said, "No, I promise. I won't bite you. Just please take me up to the mountain." The little boy thought about it and finally picked up that rattlesnake and took it close to his chest and carried it up to the top of the mountain.
They sat there and watched the sunset together. It was so beautiful. Then after sunset the rattlesnake turned to the little boy and asked, "Can I go home now? I am tired, and I am old." The little boy picked up the rattlesnake and again took it to his chest and held it tightly and safely. He came all the way down the mountain holding the snake carefully and took it to his home to give him some food and a place to sleep. The next day the rattlesnake turned to the boy and asked, "Please little boy, will you take me back to my home now? It is time for me to leave this world, and I would like to be at my home now." The little boy felt he had been safe all this time and the snake had kept his word, so he would take it home as asked.
He carefully picked up the snake, took it close to his chest, and carried him back to the woods, to his home to die. Just before he laid the rattlesnake down, the rattlesnake turned and bit him in the chest. The little boy cried out and threw the snake upon the ground. "Mr. Snake, why did you do that? Now I will surely die!"
The rattlesnake looked up at him and said,
"You knew what I was when you picked me up."
If she could cheat WITH YOU, she can certainly CHEAT ON YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): The manipulative kind, thats what she is. She's a cheater and an attention seeker and you kinda already knew this but truth is you hoped things would be different with you. Im afraid this is who she is. Shes using your daughter as bait to get your attention, by stopping you from seeing your daughter, she will inevitably provoke a reaction from you. You need to go through the courts, until you have it in writing that you are entitled to see your daughter on a routine basis. She is not doing best by her child, depriving her of her father. Every child needs both parents in their life and who is she to banish you from your daughters life. You need to fight this. Your daughter won't thank you in time if you just give up. She will feel abandoned by you.I really hope this gets sorted for you.Good Luck.x
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (18 July 2011):
 She can't get mad at you just because she's the one acting slutty. She didn't expect for you to find out so now she's punishing you. Her mistakes had nothing to do with your child, so she shouldn't have tried to keep you from her. Get an attorney, take her to court, and work out a custody agreement.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 July 2011):
 She's a cheater. You met her because she was cheating on her husband, I don't mean to be mean, but what made you think the same thing wouldn't happen to you?
If she is preventing you from seeing your daughter you need to get a lawyer.
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