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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I guess I need some advice. I met this great girl in November last year and everything between us was fantastic and we both fell in love very quickly. She had a lot of issues at home with a father who committed domestic violence and I knew there were a lot of issues at home for her. She had to keep me a secret from her parents and lie everytime we went out as they wouldn't accept her going out with a male and do something bad to her.Well, the other day I kind of lost it temporarily and asked her if it was easy for her to lie to me. DUMB thing to ask and I know I was in the wrong but what I don't understand is that she ran away. She ignored me for days and when I got through she was so depressed. I know what I said wasn't great but I do think that if couples fight they make-up and get stronger. I also think that the pressure from home and life tipped her over the edge.Well,she texted me the other day, after so many ignored calls and texts saying that she loves me forever and is running away, she hates everything in life and saying goodbye my love. I've tried calling, texting and e-mailing but I can't get through to her. I don't know what to do. If she had said she didn't love me it'd be easier but as she says she'll love forever I don't know what to do. Should I leave it and see if she comes back or keep trying everyday?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Thank you all so much for your advice. I've tried texting and calling for days but her phone is off. I think she might have gone to another country.I checked at work and they said that she's on holiday for 3 weeks. In all my texts I've told her how much I care and that I'm here for her. I guess all I can do is wait and see if she returns to work or contacts me.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 i think this girl is really having it hard and i am sorry that you feel helpless. she said she hate everything and she is running away, are you sure she is still around the neighbourhood? or do you know where she stays? i am sorry to sound insensitive but her text sounded desperate that she might have left the neighborhood and maybe she said she loves u because she knew she cant leave without saying goodbye but unfortunately under the circumstances she didnt want to complicate your life by asking you to leave with her.
i say if u know where she stay get a female friend or sister or cousin this person must pretend to be a colleague or schoolmate but shouldnot pretend to be someone the father would expect to have known otherwise it will blow your cover, then send her to your gf house to look for her, so that you can know if u need to worry what kind of problem do you have in your hands. so many children or young adults (i dont know how old is your bf the fact that she is still living with her parents gives me the idea she is still young), kill themselves or runaway from home because of the ill treatment they receive from home.
i hope wherever she is, she is fine and will contact you when she feel secured to do so. dont give up on her just yet until you find out what happened to her you might be the saviour she had been waiting for all her life. please update us of any developments.
jovial
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): I think you should keep trying everyday. If you don't contact her, then she would probably assume that you don't want her anymore. By contacting her as often as you do, it shows that you still care and it shows that you still want her.It must be hard for her with all her problems at home. But I'm sure she'll come around eventually.Good luck x
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