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writes:After asking multiple questions on this site I can now confirm that a girl I know well has a crush on me (she keeps staring) and I like her back.It's almost like a magnet; almost as if we are fated to be with each other. Whenever she stares at me I am almost inclined to stare back. We even maintain eye contact during conversation.However, I am just too scared to ask her out (being a shy person).We both have the same interests (an example: we both like animals) and we have shared some fun times together.However, I soon have GCSE work approaching me and feel that I am running out of time to ask her out. We are practically the same person; what could go wrong?But alas, I am just too fearful. I feel like something could go wrong. I don't know what it is. The girl even has a heart of gold: she would understand how I feel.I need help. I think I'm running out of time to ask her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2017): Best of luck on your GCSE! Don't get too caught-up in worrying about the girl, and forget about your exams!
If you don't be brave, she might getaway! You already know she likes you. I wish we could be there to help, but this is something you've got to do yourself.
Guess what? I think she probably likes you so much that no matter what went wrong; she wouldn't even care!
Sometimes a guy has to take a leap and go for it! Be sure you direct all your attention to your studies, and not worry about her so much. She'll still be there, but if you don't strike now, maybe not!
Good luck! We're all cheering for you!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (7 February 2017):
 Shyness is a control technique. It is way of trying to make people come to you. You stay quiet; you stay in the background so that people will be drawn in. They come to you. Seems so easy.
You can play out your whole life like this. BUT, I think it is better if you just pluck up courage and ask the question.
I mean, what's the worst that can happen - she says 'no thanks'?
However she might just say, 'yes'. How good would that be?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 February 2017):
 Honestly, you need to focus on these big exams, instead of dating - so does she. Hang out with her, but I don't think either of you should date yet. Relationships are hard work - teenage ones more so - and exams are stressful. You don't want to risk your future for a relationship that is highly unlikely to be a long one.Stay friends until after your exams, then ask her out, if you end up going to the same university or ones fairly close to each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2017): Hi there. Just wanna start by saying good luck on your exams! Not too far to go. As for the girl, my first bit of advice would be to try not to prioritise her whilst you are revising. I know it's tempting trust me, I go to uni this year and I still remember my GCSE period. I was, well thought I was, madly in love with my best guy friend. I couldn't get him out of my head and it was almost impossible for me to go 5 minutes focusing on my exams and not him. I had to set myself boundaries and limit myself from him until after exams, otherwise I probably wouldn't have gotten into college with good enough grades. Tbh I'm still at that point now with another guy, but I've been careful to not let my feelings for him control my life.You're not running out of time to ask her out, you're running out of time til your exams. I know this is hard, I'm only a few years older than you, but sometimes relationships, or trying to be in one, just isn't worth the distraction. You have plenty of time for relationships later on (I sound like my mother ugh). All I'm saying is don't completely abandon your education for this girl - not saying that you will, but it's easy to fall into that trap and find out too late that it really wasn't worth it.That being said, if you believe she is the one, you can let her know you're interested, but also that you need time to focus on exams too. I'm sure she'll understand and if she rejects you for not prioritising her, she's just not worth the hassle. You can talk to her, flirt with her -compliment her hair, her smile, anything you like about her. Let her know that you want to get to know her better after exams etc.
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