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writes:Please help, so confused!Okay so my absolute best friend in the whole world is gay, and i should make it clear that i love him to pieces so this is serious for me. We share everything together, always go out together and we're so close, everyone thinks we're a couple.But the reason im confused is we've kissed once before for a joke so that time i laughed it off and i know he is gay because he is totally in love with a boy from college and is always telling me he needs to tell him but he cant because this other boy is straight....But then recently at a party, very very drunk we made out about 5 times in front of everyone causing everyone to say no way is he gay, although while kissing me he still denied that he would ever be straight and liked boys... a bit later on we were laying down making out and he was on top of me and then he put his hand up my dress, i laughed and asked him what he was doing and i joked saying your not going to have sex with me! His reply was "why not, if i was going to with a girl, it would be you" i joked around and we continued making out. Everything is fine between us and we just laugh about it, but my other friends say he must be confused and he's always telling me how beautiful i am and how lucky he is, because any boy would like a chance with me which i dont see. But i dont know what to make of all this, and also in three days we're going to a party and i think it might happen again, and im staying at his... i dont know what to do about this either should i not kiss him or what?please help xx
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reader, Trans Am Man  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 It's doesn't sound that confusing to me, but there maybe more to it than you're saying. I'm not gay but I really, really understand the gay people. I really understand that a man can fall in love with another man and the same for a women. You see he may be gay, he may have emotional feelings for men but if you're a good looking girl he probably wants to have sex with you. But I highly doubt he would ever try to turn it into a relationship. He probably just wants to try sex with a women.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Difficult to say while he was drunk. My two straight guy friend made out with a gay guy while they were both drunk, though he's definitely still straight. I also once heard a gay guy say he LOVED boobs and missed them (he asked to play with mine), but would never be straight. I would say the best I can say is he's probably a little confused. Maybe he was horny while drunk and you were just someone he would like to make out with for fun. I'd guess he's still gay, so I probably wouldn't kiss him unless he's not drunk.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 This one sounds confused...maybe not sure of which he is attracted to. These days thats perfectly normal. Gay guys are still interested in women's boobs, always complimenting me on my looks, and I often kiss my gay friends on the mouth but nothing intimate. Where the whole potential sex, and kissing comes from is he's comfortable exploring his maybe attraction to girls with u. Being that u know he also likes guys too...Now, do u like this guy as in boyfriend, or is he strictly bestie? If it's as bf then I would tell him youre not comfortable having sex with him bc ur his best friend and u dont want to cross that line. He'll totally understand. So that way ure not confusing urself on ur emotions. Now if he's just a bestie to u, then u have to decide do u want to do that for him or u cant cross that line. Bottom line, before u go to that party, have a discussion with him and ask are u into me? or r u just experimenting? Ur best friends u talk about it all!
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