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writes:okay so i have this friend he is amazing and i love him to bits. he is gay but i have quite big boobs and he keeps poking at them and grabbing them i didnt really mind at first but now its getting to me and its got worse cause he has asked if he could see them he is my best friend and i love him but i don't know how to tell him i am not comfotable with that please help i don't know what to say adn i don't want to hurt his feelings
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): dont worry im the same too but im married 4 years ago and my husband keeps on feeling my boobes. my boobes are very big and my husband loves them. One day i was me from work and tired and my husband and me went out into the garden to relax on our deck chairs all the whille my husband could not stop touching my boobes. Also i have to wear tops that dont have any buttons so he can touch them easily if i wear like a jumper where its hard to reach my boobes my husband shouts at me ang gets in a mood. i understnad how it feels. im pregnant now with my 3rd child and he til keeps on touching my bobes. Even in front of my children i have got 2 sons so far and they laugh aswell when they see their own dad touching my boobes.if we go swimming aswell he tells me to wear a bikini even if i dont want to because my boobes are really big and all the men stare at me. so dont worry it happens!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): dont worry im the same too but im married 4 years ago and my husband keeps on feeling my boobes. my boobes are very big and my husband loves them. One day i was me from work and tired and my husband and me went out into the garden to relax on our deck chairs all the whille my husband could not stop touching my boobes. Also i have to wear tops that dont have any buttons so he can touch them easily if i wear like a jumper where its hard to reach my boobes my husband shouts at me ang gets in a mood. i understnad how it feels. im pregnant now with my 3rd child and he til keeps on touching my bobes. Even in front of my children i have got 2 sons so far and they laugh aswell when they see their own dad touching my boobes.if we go swimming aswell he tells me to wear a bikini even if i dont want to because my boobes are really big and all the men stare at me. so dont worry it happens!!
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reader, lauren (: +, writes (13 January 2010):
Just because he grabs your boobs does not mean hes gay :|
im exactly the same, my best friend is gay and i love him.
ive got big boobs and hes always grabbing me or slapping my arse or whatever, it doesnt means hes pretending to be gay just because he wants to have some pervy feel haha.
All it means is hes comfortable being around me like im sure your friend is too and he is a touch feely person.
If hes your best friend, then you should be comfortable with him too, but if you dont like it tell him that the only way (:
Im sure lots of guys would take advantage, but my boyfriend doesnt mind or see him as a threat, its just a it of fun dont worry too much and just tell him the truth
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): Tell him get off they aren't toys and they are reserved for your boyfriend x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 October 2009):
Are you sure he's gay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): If he is truly Gay.....Show him. Once you do. I can guarantee you he will no longer be interested in touching and wanting to see them...I HOPE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): Interesting, I find that a lot of completely straight girls love boobs maybe as much as guys do. I don't know the reasoning behind it, but maybe gay males 'like' them as much as anyone else, and your friend is no exception.
If this is the case, then your friend simply thinks he can get away with playing with them because he's gay.
As everyone else says, tell him what you think, and he'll most likely get the hint and leave it out.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (19 October 2009):
Or perhaps maybe he wants a pair himself????
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (19 October 2009):
Not the kind of behavior a freind exhibits... not! Set him straight, he's being manipulative... somethings not right here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): Maybe he is just saying he is gay so he can get closer to girls, if he is gay ask him "shouldn't you be more attracted to guys parts and not girls parts."
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): You don't know how to tell him you're not comfortable showing you his boobs? Tell him the same way you tell any other guy you don't want to.
Just because he's gay (although I suspect he's bi, based on his actions and him asking to see your boobs) and your friend doesn't mean he can just touch you and see you whenever. Do you let your other friends do that? I doubt it. Don't let him manipulate you like that. Just tell him no, and if he can't control himself better then maybe the frienship isn't working the way it should.
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