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writes: Hi i have a problem and i dont know what to do...okay basically my bestfriend joey came out to me...he told me that he was gay and was attracted to guys, i was shocked but i didn't really care so as a good friend would do..i reassured him, comforted him and made him feel comfortable, and told him ill be there for him..............but as i was patting his back telling him this he grabs my hand and places it on his crotch area, and begins to make out with me....usually my first reaction was to back off and sock the guy in the face, but i wouldn't hurt my friend so i would've baked off, but strangely i didn't..i actually liked it/... now im hella confused....i don't know what to do...i don't want to be a bi guy, or gay (not saying there's anything wrong with that), but it's just not for me...i have no idea wat to do or wat to say to him..cause after it all happened I ran out on a rampage and havent spoken to him...any idea of what i should do??
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (11 May 2009):
He might have feelings for you now but if he does, and he is your best friend, hopefully he respects that you're not the type to have feelings for him that way and you're still his best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank yu for the answers...
the whole thing was really wierd and i was in shock after wards..i dont know why i continued..the whole thing..
i talked to him and he apologized for it but...he says he kinda has feeling s for me...
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (7 May 2009):
You really do need to talk to him about it. He's your best friend so he'll be willing to have a talk with you about it too. Just sit down with him and let him know that you didn't mean for that to happen, but it's not going to change anything in your guys' friendship. Let him know that you do support him 100% and respect that he likes guys. You can't ignore him forever because that'll just make things worse. Just talk to him and things will be fine. Good luck
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 hun just talk to him he's your friend right?
you were there for him surely he can be there for you.
just tell him it was a mistake and that you don't want him to play on anything that happend and that your not that way inclined.
mayb you liked it because it was different.
doesn't mean your gay just experiencing new things.
you just need to talk to him about it get him tosee that you guys are just friends and nothing more.
if he reacts badly let him cool off at least you've been honest with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): You stand up for yourself. If it's not for you, then it isn't. Period. You tell him that you're willing to be a friend, but you're not into him or any other guy. If he can't respect your orientation, then there's no way to be friends.
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