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writes:im a 21 yr old guy im pretty good looking. ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years. the first 9 months our sex lives for great. we would have sex at least once or twice a day. my girlfriend is 22 yr old. we had a baby about a year in a half ago. my girlfriend never wants to have sex anymore.. she used to be a sex addict. but for the last almost 2 years she has not wanted it. if im lucky maybe once a month. i dont know why she is doing this. it makes me feel like she's unattracted to me and it makes me feel like im not good at pleasuring her. maybe she's been in the relationship with me for so long that she's sick of having sex with me. i dont know anymore. i love her and she loves me. im really depressed. ive gained some weight and smoke a pack of ciggs a day. its pretty sad that a good looking guy like me who is great at sex and has alot for my age and get laid anymore. instead i masterbate 3 times a day now. pretty sad. sex was all the time and many positions to now for over a lil over a year we never have a hot sex life anymore. maybe she is sick of having sex with just me or maybe shes not attracted to me anymore cus she's used to being with me all the time i dont know. im so sexually frustrated it it changes my mood daily im more moody and cranky towards others and im depressed alot from it. i love her and i want my sex life with her back. what do i do how can this change. i feel like im with an 90 yr old woman that has no hormones what so ever. i feel like one of those sitcom t.v shows where u have the wife laying in bed waiting to reward the husband like its been a while honey u disserve this. and thats not how we use to be. sex is life it shouldnt be a reward it should be sex i love sex im a freak and my girlfriend used to be the same but now she never wants it and if she does its always in the bed and the same two positions. its not good anymore. im so frustrated the when i actually kiss her before we start having sex my heart beats fast and heavy like i lost my breath thats how desperate and excited i get and i dont think thats right what should i do people ive been with her for 3 years and have a 1 yr old baby with her. please help me out its making me think im not an attracted guy its making me think a bunch of things and it changes my mood towards others..
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reader, LOSTONEla +, writes (30 January 2009):
Not sure if there is a hormone issue or not - for now assuming that she does not have that problem, she likely could use help with the other tasks of the day, and romancing here - just a nice kiss any time, etc - will help. Slowly getting her in the mood - call her and say nice things, show her you love her. One think you kept saying is "having sex" - focus on loving her and saying loving things to her, and getting her to relax and make love as part of the progression. She may be turned off about just doing it - make it part of a romantic date - even if it is at home. Remind her of what it felt like to first fall in love early in your relationship. good luck - move slowly and talk with her - she may have some issues with you or something else in her life that are making her not feel pretty - maybe she has weight to loose or whatever - just love her. I have made love to my wife from 108 lbs up to a pregnant 165 lbs. It does not matter - they want to know that they are beautiful in your eyes.
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reader, shellie 2  +, writes (25 January 2009):
Hi there hope you dont mind a womans perspective? Talking from experience you have a one year old child your partner is bound to be knackered.You had a honeymoon period for 9 months then you had a baby.It could be that your partner feel unertractive that her bodys not back to its normal self.She may want more romance at the moment rather than just a quickie.You need to take the lead and set the mood flowers romantic meal etc.Make sure you tell how sexy she is and how much you love her!give her a cuddle that does not have to lead to full blown sex,maybe thats her worry that when you are close she thinks you are expecting more !!If that doesnt work talk to her she maybe worried to broach the subject herself.Womans hormones are a strange thing good luck hope this helps x Shellie
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