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writes: what do you do/say to someone that has blocked you in wassup? I was seeing this guy for about 2 yrs. It wasn't a serious relationship but it is a friend with benefits.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 March 2019):
FWB isn't supposed to be a long term thing. Usually because ONE or the other catches feeling and the whole "casual" side of it becomes "complicated".
He blocked you because he is done with it (the FWB and YOU).
He hit the expiration date on the FWB. Either because he met someone he WANTS to date or he got tired of this "pretend" relationship thing.
Why settle for a FWB anyways? And for 2 years?
Accept that he effectively ENDED it, the friendship (possibly) and the casual sex). So it's time for you to move on too, HE did.
Maybe next time don't SETTLE for FWB?
Seems kind of cold to not even tell you that he is done with it, but CHOOSES to just block you. Pretty immature and callous that he can't even tell you, but he OBVIOUSLY could have sex with you. Not much of a friend, was he?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (11 March 2019):
You were a booty call for two years. You held on for too long. Booty calls should be infrequent and only last a few months to avoid this mess. He’s blocked you because he wants something with someone else. Let it go and find someone else who wants what you want, which doesn’t appear to be a FwB any more.
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reader, N91 +, writes (11 March 2019):
You move on?
Really simple. Why would you even be pondering this? It was only sex, you can get that from anywhere. Unless you’re not being truthful and you have feelings? Either way, this guy wants nothing more to do with you.
Get over it.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 March 2019):
What do you do? You move on and find someone who is prepared to give you more than just sex. He was using you until someone came along with whom he wanted a full relationship, not just the occasional romp.
Shake yourself down, lick any wounds that need healing, then get on with your life. And ask yourself whether this sort of arrangement is what you really want. You know you deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2019): I know that feeling how it feels to be blocked on WhatsApp when talking to someone you really like. I felt like my heart sank. I had a 1 year fwb situation with a guy I really liked I even thought I loved him in all honesty. It was never in his plans to make anything serious with me but I get getting strung along. It sounds like this guy who blocked you also never intended on being serious with you. On that app it’s really not possible to accidentally block you so he must’ve had a reason which could be many. If he wants to walk let him leave. It’s not worth it to catch feeling for a fwb situation because stuff like this happens and you’re left with too much emotions. You should find someone who truly cares for you and wants something serious with you. Just like the wise owl says 2 years is way too long so get out there and find someone who will only want you and not go to a childish length of blocking you instead of not telling you upfront how he felt. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2019): Oh, that's an easy one. He's dating, or intends to see someone that might be serious.
He has to place all his extracurricular-activities on the sidelines, and minimize unexpected contacts. Social media is a dead giveaway of what he's up-to, and with whom! You might be blowing-up his phone a little too much.
If it came without warning, there's another lady in his life.
He's signaling time to be just "friends." So I guess you have to put a lid on the benefits.
If it's nothing serious, why has it lasted so long?
Well he has just reaffirmed, it's still not anything serious.
Go find yourself something meaningful. Two years is too long.
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