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writes:I currently live with my bf and yesterday, he gave me a very advanced bday gift of which he took pictures of me with it and excitedly convinced me to post on facebook.Now the story is this, my friends reacted when they saw the pictures and said that my bed is too small for me and my boyfriend. So I said, it's because I only sleep in it. My bf sleeps on the ground beside my bed (on a foldable mattress ofcourse). His bed is where we cuddle together when we watch movies or eat. It's our love area at night. We love each other a lot.My friends said this is weird and that we should sleep beside each other. Is it? I feel for me, it has helped our relationship in that, I feel sleeping beside each other feels like i am choking. I need my freedom and privacy when I am asleep. He is not my husband yet, so I prefer we sleep separately which is fine with him. It's like we have each other on a daily basis, we sleep alone but we know each one is just one arm's length away. What do you guys think? Thanks in advance.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (3 August 2011):
 If you BOTH are equally happy about it, that's fine, however, I believe it would be more fair to your boyfriend if you got him his own bed instead of him sleeping on a thin folding mattress, or got a very large bed like a king size so you could have plenty of space and wouldn't be crowded.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): If you are both comfortable with your current sleeping situation, that is all that matters. Simply put, your friends are not responsible for deciding how other people should go to bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): your arrangement sounds completely fine, especially when you have just a small bed to start with, and you're both happy with it, that doesn't seem weird to me (I really like my space as well!) Don't worry what your friends think, just explain to them you and your bf are both happy with it the way it is, focus on what works for your relationship
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (3 August 2011):
 I think that if both you and your boyfriend feel comfortable with your sleeping arrangements, then you should stick with them and not care what other people think. They may think it's weird, but so what? It suits you guys and that's the only thing that matters. When you both feel that you're ready to sleep in the same bed, then do it. But for now, don't let anyone's opinion affect how comfortable you are with the way things are.
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