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writes:ok so i have a new boyfriend. and it's going really good. he asks me to hang out all the time and i love it. but my friends don't. and this happens every time i get a boyfriend. they ask me to hang out but i already have plans with my bf. cuzz he actually acts like he wants to hang out, unlike them. and when i tell them i have plans w/ him they get mad and theyre like ur not hanging out with him ur hanging out with us. ur a bad friend. blah blah etc. and it makes me feel really bad.. but its like i have a boyfriend cant u respect that? i mean i hang out with them and they always act like they dont wanna hang out so why would i hang out with someone that actually wants to? i just don't know what to do about them anymore. they're mad at me and it's like wow.. help please? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): I got a friend who when she gets a b/f, stops seeing us so much. Unlike the rest of us who always manage to make time to see friends, she always chose her boyfreind over us. Fact is, if you want to keep your friends sweet, you need to make time for them. At your age, friends matter much more than boyfriends, you need them more at school and stuff.This is easily solved if you just spent more time with them.
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reader, HORNYHELP. +, writes (19 October 2008):
wow they sound really lame.
tell them if they wanna chill with you
they cant ask last minute cuz you've gotta
hang with your bf to he's another part of
your life and if they wanna be part of your
life they should respect that.
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reader, KiaGrace +, writes (19 October 2008):
 When you have a boyfriend, this is very likely to happen. I'm assuming your friend's don't have boyfriends, they are very envious about this. You may not realize it, but they are. They probably feel they are being replaced. Boyfriends and Bestfriends always cause alot of commosion. I understand how you feel, but you also have to remember that at our age, boyfriends are usually not for ever, and usually friends are. You have to keep that in mind because if you shove off your friends, you will have nobody left if you and your boyfriend break up. I would suggest picking a date where you and your boyfriend and friends can all get together, and get to know one another. They could become good friends with him, and then you could all hang out. Of course you and your boyfriend will want some alone time some days, and if your friends are true, they will respect that. I'd also suggest to make plans in advance with your boyfriend and friends, that way they both know when your free and when your not. Best of luck.
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