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writes:I have two questions. I'll start from the beginning.I've been friends with a guy "Scott" for a few years. He has a younger sister who is pretty amazing but we are total opposites. She was dating a guy that her parents loved, coming from a political family background, who was also on a full academic scholarship and also plays baseball for his college. But he was an ass. In public and around her parents be adored her, was little Prince Charming but any time he drank and in private he was an ass. Trying to control her every move , very belittling but used her as a trophy prize (she's hot as hell).Her parents don't hate me but I'm not their favourite person. I've crashed drunk too many times on their couch for them to ever want me dating their daughter. My friend "Scott" and his sister are really close. One night a few months ago his sister and I were up talking after spending a night out at s bar with friends and we messed around. It happened a few times (just kissing and touching), after a couple of weeks of this she told me she really liked me and was trying to break up with her boyfriend , it honestly didn't even bother me that she had a boyfriend at first because I saw how horrible he treated her. She did break up with him and her family was devastated, they acted like they lost their child when he left. For the last two months we have been sneaking around. I kinda threw some hints to her brother that I liked her and he said if I ever tried anything be would hate me , he said it's a friend code that you just don't date a friends baby sister. I feel horrible! This guy is an amazing friend but she is an amazing girl. I hate sneaking around , I don't want him to find out by catching us. How do tell him with out him ending our friendship? Also As much as it didn't bother me that she had a boyfriend when we first messed around, I'm scared she will cheat again. (I've been cheated on before by a girl I dated for almost two years). She said she had never cheated before and up until she was with me she said she would have never thought she would have. Am I crazy to worry about this?
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reader, Name  +, writes (21 April 2016):
Friendship is more important than relationships you can find a good girl with patience. I would talk to you r friends "scott" and tell him everything including that you would or if you wouldn't date her because of yalls friendship. I would also speak to her and be straight up.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 April 2016):
 Off course you are going to be worried, she cheated on a guy with you, so she can easily cheat on you with another guy when she wants to. In my eyes she is not a very trustworthy person, exactly what age is she? Maybe she is just not mature enough yet to know how to behave in an adult relationship. None the less she is a cheat, and that is something she cannot take back now.
I am going to be honest with you, it sounds like you may end up having to choose what is more important to you, your friend or his sister. You both cannot sneak around forever and your friend has already made it pretty clear that it would be breaking your friendship if you started dating his sister. Plus her parents aren't your biggest fan therefore the odds are stacked against you both.
I would be worried that it is the thrill of sneaking around that his sister is enjoying more than actually wanting to date you, that is just my opinion though. My advice to you is to work out which one of them is more important to you and then come clean to your friend. Good luck.
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