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writes:Last Friday I went to a small house party…The usual, got off with some girls, caught up with some old friends.Night took a turn for the bizarre near the end… I noticed my mates girlfriend, Kim and some of her friends were at the party. I had been with some of her friends before so we all knew each other. I went over to chat to them, we enjoy each others company.My mate wasn’t at the party though. It seemed to be a girls night out for them.We all chatted for a bit and had a bit of a laugh… we were all in good moods. I told them I’d see them later and started walking towards the kitchen to get some more beer, there wasn’t any so I went upstairs… As I was going upstairs… Kim followed me, kind of giggling, I didn’t think much of it.She said, I have to tell you a secret, she was drunk and I thought it was about one of her friends liking me (the usual girly way) so It was all cool I just went long with it…She started off by saying her friend Kat had a crush on me, and tried to talk me into going back downstairs and chatting to her, but as she was telling me, there were lots of people walking past, and I couldn’t hear everything she was saying. So she kind of directed us into the bathroom to chat, she closed the door and was still giggling talking about Kat, but as she looked up her eyes caught mine and I could sense she was now about to lean in and start kissing me… She did, my mind, sort of froze…. I couldn’t really get what was going on; it was all happening very quickly. She was gently biting my lip and my ear… she took my hands and moved them down under her skirt…. Almost signalling for me to slide down her panties. My hands touched them and they were pretty wet, I pulled back right away. I gathered my senses…It started to kick in what was happening.It all lasted about 10 seconds. I didn’t really know what to say… I could tell she was a bit embarrassed about it… I tried not to make it any more awkward so I just laughed and said, “we’re all drunk I’ll go down and see Kat now” and walked out… I was trying to play down what just happened even though in my mind I was thinking WTF!?I stayed at the party for a while after, but it was in my mind and when I was in the taxi going home. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Thing is, whilst Kim and her friends are pretty damn hot, they aren’t the typical sluttly kind. Not like that at all. They aren’t angels but they aren’t the easy kind either. I always felt she might have been attracted to me, but I just played it down as friendship as most girls do seem to like me in some way. I can hardly help it.My mate wasn’t even there, and now I don’t know what to do about this . Do I tell him his girlfriend tried to come onto me!? They always seemed really happy together and I don’t want to be the one who came between them (literally)!I haven’t spoken to either of them since, I just don’t know what to say. I’m almost afraid to text him just to say what’s up… and I don’t know why because I haven’t really done anything wrong.I don’t even know if he knows about this yet, I’m pretty sure he doesn’t. nobody does, but then again, I’m worried she might have told him something different because she felt embarrassed that I rejected her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): You can bet that if you tell him and he confronts her she'll tell him you came on to her. It would be self-defence on her part and he'd as likely as not believe her over you.
If I were you I'd say nothing to him or anyone else for that matter. She's not likely to say anything if you don't. Let him find out the hard way. If this is how she behaves their relationship, if you can call it that, is doomed anyway.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Be honest with your mate because there will be bigger consequences if her guilt takes over and she tells him before you do. However NOT through a text. When and if you decide to tell him you must have a serious in-person dicussion about the matter.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 October 2009):
Make sure you're not around her or alone with her again. I have to be honest, if I thought my girlfriend was cheating, or thinking about cheating, then I would want to know, no matter how painful. I know you don't want to say anything, but it would be better if you did, because if you don't and she says something, it might make it sound like you wanted it to happen. I think it would be better for you and your friend if you told him, no matter what happens. That last thing you want is for her to suddenly say you came on to her, and the not be in a position to stick up for yourself.
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