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writes:Ok, i have so many problems right now and i feel so stressed. Firstly a few months ago i fell out with my 3 best friends because they never involved me in anything they did and 'ganged' up on me all the time, one of them was even meant to be going on holiday with me but we fell out a week before i went. Anyway these 3 girls are being really awful to me now, i guess you could call it bullying. I hardly have any friends because they've turned everyone against me. For example everytime i see them they say something offensive, or they stick there fingers up at me, or they get people to come up to me and ask why i've been saying stuff about them when i havn't because i don't want anything to do with them. My mum knows what they are doing and she said she can stop it but i said i don't want her to do anything about it because last time she had an argument with them when i fell out with them my mum told them i go home cryin every night and they went and told the whole school. They even have a girl a few years below calling me a bitch and stuff, and i've never done anything to her, she hardly even knows me! I'm just so fed up of them.Another thing is boys. i'm nearly 16 and i've never had a real boyfriend, and i have only ever kissed one lad once. I was recently talkin to a boy and he was flirting and everything but not askin me out so i plucked up courage to ask him out, all i said was do you fancy goin to the xmas lights turn on on friday night at the mall and he said he's abit busy at the moment and he would see what he was doin friday but i never got another text, and its passed friday. So i'm guessin thats the end of him, because i'm fed up of chasing him. No guys seem to be interested in me. And everyone i know has a bf/gf and are havin sex and stuff, i feel stupid and so lonely, like i'll never meet someone nice that wants me and when i do i'm affraid it will be too late.And finally my gcse exams are coming up and i'm going to do rubbish. I don't understand anything and i'm not good at anything. My brother is a boffin and got all A's and no matter how hard i try i still fail, so my parents will be dissapointed. I just feel like i've lost all my confidence and wanna give up. I'm so alone, no one would even notice if i wasn't here. I don't know what i've done to deserve all this! And i have no body to talk to, talking never seems to help anyway. I just want a life like any other teenage girl, i'm meant to be having fun but instead i wake up and my eyes fill up with tears because i know it's gunna be another wasted day.
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reader, SV +, writes (10 November 2009):
You're young and there will be plenty of boys that you haven't even met yet, Right now your priority should be on your GCSE's because they'll determine your future. I gnore all your "friends" and focus on that. Don't try and compare yourself to anybody because it's just a wasted effort.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 Nearly everyone feels insecure as a teenager. I imagine that your friends treat you cruelly because they're feeling insecure, too, and you are a convenient scapegoat.
It sounds like your self-esteem is really in the gutter. You ARE special and unique. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Your brother might get all A's, but that doesn't mean that you are inferior or not good at anything. Perhaps you haven't discovered what it is you're good at. That's what the teens are all about: finding yourself. You'll figure it out. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Sweetie, I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time right now. Girls can be cruel and your friends are no exception. My ex-friends treated me the same way when I was your age and 10 years later they still act the same way if I run into them at the store! So sadly, some girls never grow out of it. You're their target for the moment, so it is best that you no longer hang out with them. Even though you feel like crying, act like their bullying doesn't make you sad. They'll eventually get tired and pick on someone else, or even better, they'll pick on each other. You sound so mature for your age and even though you feel bad, this will make you so much stronger in the end. Those girls are probably just jealous of you and are insecure of themselves, so they tease you. Again, act strong and tough! Just brush off their comments. As for boys, you all are still so young, so don't worry about it too much. The guy you were talking to probably just likes the chase or the thrill of flirting with you, instead of actually going/hanging out. Take your mind off of boys, busy yourself in something else and they will appear when you least expect it. As for your brother, try not to compare yourself to him because you will feel bad. My older sister is indeed a brain, but we're all different and that's what makes us so wonderful. (I have my master's degree and she doesn't!) If you're close with your brother, you can ask him for studying tips and help. Hang in there! It's a difficult time, but know that your family loves you and cares for you!! You are so special and unique- keep your head up high and you'll get very far in life!!! Take care!!
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