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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone,Lately I've been having a lot of problems with this guy at college, he likes me but I have a boyfriend, I'm not interested in this guy who likes me at college at all, I do believe I'm madly in love with my boyfriend who i've been with for a year now.I've told this guy at college very politely I have a boyfriend and he took it quite well.The next day however he continues to flirt with me and it makes me feel VERY awkward, he seems to follow me around and tries to do nice gestures, which is nice but I have no interest in him and I've told him. My friend even told him not to do it as it's making me feel incredibly awkward but he continues to do it, several people have in fact told him I have a boyfriend and not interested.I've also told him several times (the other time quite snappy as I wasn't in the mood for it) and to stop flirting with me so much.It's really annoying, I can understand from his point of view if he does really likes me it must be upsetting for him to know I have a boyfriend and I don't have the same feelings, but I wish he would leave me alone I just want to be with my friends at college without him constantly bothering us.Where do I go from here? I've explained to him very clearly I have a long term boyfriend as have other people.It's really frustrating!Thanks everyone for reading x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Next time he does it, give it to him poker straight. This behaviour is not right and you've given him more than enough chances. Look him directly in the eyes, keep deadly stern and serious and tell him you've had enough of his behaviour and that he should really take a hint and leave you the hell alone until he learns how to talk to you in a purely platonic way, because you're sick of how awkward it's making you feel. Then walk away. If he still doesn't get it, blank him completely, pretend he's not there. It's unlikely this boy will learn how to be friends, best to avoid him and keep strict with him until he learns his social norms abit better.
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