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writes: I have a large group of friends and they're all in relationships apart from me. I am alright with being single, it doesn't matter to me. I tell them I am fine with being single but none of them believe me and try and set me up with the worst guys in the world...How can I get them to understand that I am alright being single for now? Reply to this Question
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reader, Marilissa75  +, writes (17 March 2014):
 Chigirl gave some good advice. I will validate that I have met women who were ok with being single and I knew it was sincere. Some people are just strong in themselves and fine with being single for extended periods of time or even for a lifetime and needier people have trouble understanding that. Good for you! Best of luck getting your friends to stop pestering you about it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 March 2014):
 The trick to solve this is to take one of these friends aside and talk to her in private. Make it dead serious by starting the conversation with "there's something I really need to tell you, and it's something that really troubles me". This will sharpen her ears, trust me, and she will feel so extremely happy that you chose to confine in her, and she will feel like she's a special friend of yours, which is good. Because she will be your best ally in this.
Tell her that you are, truly, really bothered by the constant assumption that you are miserable being single. That when the time is right and you find the right person, you will go for it, but for now you actually do like being single. Tell her that you feel awkward and get embarrassed by the constant set ups with boys you have no interest in.
Then, to finish all of this, say something like "I didn't know who to tell, as I didn't want to upset anyone, but I really had to get this off my chest. You're such a great listener, thank you for listening to my rant".
Then don't say anything else, because I guarantee you, she will go tell the others in the group. So you wont have to tell everyone, she will do it for you. Because by telling her and only her, she will feel like a super amazing friend, and she will try to "have your back" in return for your trust in her. So she will talk to the others when they try to set you up again, and she will make them stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2014): Just let it go, if they're more interested than you in your own relationship status then let them get on with it and ignore them. If you're happy then it doesn't matter :)
I know it's annoying, my friends used to do it all the time to me and I hated it but if you persist and do your own thing then they'll stop eventually.
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