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writes:My friend has met a girl on a dating website, they went on two dates and invited me along to the third...I was ment to have a blind date with her mate. As soon as I seen them both I knew I didnt like the blind date so I just enjoyed he night and the company, as we left she pulled me to one side and asked me for my number...I said I dont see you in that way sorry, she then said its not for me its for your friends date she likes you. I was in shock and then after thinking about it I realised I did fancy her as well. On the way home she text my friend and told him she didnt want to see him anymore as she likes someone else, my friend was dissapointed and angry, I couldnt bring myself to tell him what I knew. On the next day I had a text from the girl and she has invited me out on friday, I like her but is it wrong on my friend?
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (28 September 2011):
Great, glad it worked out well for you. Having those hard kinds of conversations with people is difficult for all of us, but the more of them you can have and just be true to yourself, the better, so this one is good experience for you to have had, it worked out well, and you get to pursue the girl with a clear conscience :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys thanks, im 24 she is 22. They didnt even kiss and had a small argument about smoking on the 2nd date. I told my friend today which was hard but he said I was welcome to her as he didnt think it was going to work anyway, I feel alot better now about talking to her and I am seeing her on thursday. Thanks for the advice idoneitagain much appreciated.
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reader, KittieS +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Good advice posted so far, but I think it also really depends on how "far" they went on that first and second date - was it just chatting?? No long kiss good night or sex? You don't mention how old you are, which also makes a difference.
Ask yourself, how would you honestly feel if it was the other way round - remember you have known her five minutes your friend much longer is it worth jepodising a friendship for a girl you just met?
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reader, idoneitagain +, writes (27 September 2011):
If your friend liked her, he is likely to be upset. However, she isn't his ex girlfriend, they went on 3 dates and met on an internet dating website, and she has told him she isnt interested in him. It would be ok for you to date her, but only if you put your friendship first. In order to do this, you need to tell him what has happened, that you have just found out that she likes you and wants to go out with you. Tell him you know he will be upset because he liked her, but that you didn't plan it, it is just one of those things that has happened and that you want to give it a go. He will be upset, but it is an understandable situation, and if you speak to him about it, he will get over it pretty quickly once he realises that she isn't interested in him and that he doesn't have anything to lose by you dating him.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (27 September 2011):
It's wrong to your friend for sure. Second, she's a ho. I had a friend like this and she would do crap like that all the time, she probably "likes" you and 5 other guys. Don't risk your friendship and save yourself an STD.
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