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writes:My friend's boyfriend is a liar and a cheater! She cares about him and is always helping him, even if he says he doesn't need help. Her bf claims to love her, even though he flirts with me and other girls when she's not around. Also, my friend has caught him cheating. My friends and I know she deserves better than this- what can we do?(Friend doesn't know that he has cheated.)
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (1 March 2008):
 You should tell her. And so she doesn't get immature about it (idk what type of person she is, but some females get this way)bring one or two of her other friends with her who will vouch for you.
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Sorry i pressed the wrong key when replying, i did not mean the post to be that short. Like i said you need to be there for your friend and next time the b/f flirts with you make it clear to him that it is not on and tell him you will tell your friend. If he is a cheat your friend will soon find out herself, people that cheat end up getting found out. It's nice that you care for her but if you tell her what he's up to she may not thank you for it.
Having said that if i was in her shoes i would certainly want to know. Good luck.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (29 February 2008):
I think you need to be there for your friend.
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reader, love-him +, writes (29 February 2008):
 HEY!!
You need to think about what to do and say carefully, if you did tell your friend who would she believe? I think you should let her find out for herself.. he is bound to split up somewhere.. I know you are caring for your friend but by telling her may make her not believe you and fall deeper into his trap..
I hope i helped you, feel free to mail me at any time x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Hi Hun
Oh boy!!!!!!Well if he flirts with you tell him to f off and get a life and Id tell all my mates to do the same.
Thats first off, Its so hard when your put in this possition as you dont want to hurt or loose a friendship but you dont want her hurt and then finally say when she finds out did you no? and why didnt you tell me?
I was in this possition once and my best mates fella picked us up from town in his love wagon and he dropped her home first (which we both thought strange as we talked in the back of the car) I said be prepared ill ring you tomorrow he then dropped his mate off and then made a pass at me!!!!He got a black eye, I told her and I also told her what he told me that he had slept behind her back loads of times so one more wouldnt matter and she would never no!!!!!CHEEKY GIT!!! Its a hard decition to make but we are very close, That was along time ago now but she didnt rare up with me I wont go into detail about what she did to him but OUCH! Hunny its a catch 22 you tell her and she calls you a liar and storms off to him and he consols her YEA! Or she listens to you and does the right thing if there is more than 1 of you to back it up thats better but only one should be with her if you decide to talk as its upsetting enough I hope this helps hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY OH N YOU ARE A GREAT MATE XXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, polarkite +, writes (29 February 2008):
 This is a classic problem, and can be classified as HARD. Ironically, I have always tried to stay out of my friend's relationships, hoping they would "come to reason" eventually. But, at a certain point, it just starts affecting you, and the quality of your relationship with that person. At that point I think it's better to say something because it's just not healthy to hold something inside. It's a balance though. When someone is in love and in denial, it is a very powerful feeling, and they will sometimes bring the entire world down with them to preserve their vision.
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