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writes:please help.I know you cant actually comfort me that much as the fact I have are bleak..but I just need to tell someone, anyone..I feel so trapped at the moment. My friends are all getting boyfriends..or already have bfs and are all so happy.Theres a guy I like..who was texting me for a bit (I initiated it tho- by texting him first) i was open about my unhappiness but did not say i liked him..we talked..but I dont know if it was chummy, if he was being friendly.he said some nice stuff int he text that amde me think hmm maybe he does..but i really dont know.I just dont know.What should I do?
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reader, Tomas +, writes (10 February 2009):
Great answer below. When you are young, you (rightly) don't trust your "radar" to tell who is interested. You have to make your best guess, test it, and see if you were right. Of course it is uncomfortable (try being a teenage boy practicing what to say when he calls a girl, ugh). But it's the only way to learn, like swimming or driving lessons. And it can end up being fun.From a guy's perspective, (1) what you describe could be interest on his part, or not, or something in between. (2) If he did not like you at all, he probably wouldn't engage in the texting etc. Friendly at least. (3) if he has thought of you that way, he would say yes. If he hasn't, he may spend a few seconds trying to quickly gauge what he thinks. You know you better than he does. If you are confident in that "there's a movie I want to see you want to come along" sort of way that means you know what you want, you're opening a door, but it's not a big deal if he isn't interested, that positive self-image often becomes what someone else's starting opinion of you is. I mean, you know you, and if you think you are pretty fun, who is anyone who doesn't know you well to argue? (4) If he isn't interested, recognize that it may be a result of five seconds impression caught off guard.Our female anonymous mentioned flirting. A good trait to learn, and less pressure, and some guys might like that more, but you might miss other guys who don't pick up the clues. Either approach is fine, so long as you are trying and learning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): There are SOOOO many questions like this on this site. Does this guy "like" you or not? How should anyone know? When you're young you do a lot of this sitting around and umming and ahhing about whether someone likes you or not, but there is only ever one way to find out for sure and that's to ASK. Be a little proactive and make a move. Nothing crazy, just a small step in the right direction that lets this guy know where you're at - flirt, suggest going out somewhere etc. If he turns you down, no biggie, you've learnt a life lesson and at least you're not in the dark anymore, right?Don't worry about the boyfriend thing. Everyone has their own life path and you'll be having your time with the guys soon enough :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionid like to give more info about this..but tbh would fee more comfortable emailing messaging anyone who can help x
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