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writes:well this is about my friend, i'm not quite sure what to do. She turned 17 in october. She is in a long term relationship and she recently told me her and her partner had fallen out.They are still together though I asked her why and she said because she wants a child and he thinks he is too young (he is 19) which i totally agree with!!I don't see why she wants to be tied down with a child at her age!! i want to say something but i don't want her to fall out with me!! She is picking out names and everything!! please help! any advice would be helpfull Reply to this Question
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reader, jessekk69 +, writes (24 January 2007):
 i know your only being a mate but i wouldnt get to involved. im 18 and i have to kids (one 21months old other 7months). i love them to peices but its not always easy but i wount go as far as saying its hard anyhoo. my "friend" butted in to much saying i was to young and everything. i hate her so much now because she was wrong. (im Married, own my own house and own my own business) my family and my HUSBANDS family is soo good and are always there, my parents babysit every tues and sat so i have a life. leave her to do what she wants. she is her own person.
p.s when i was little i always got broudy around my period. maybe her blob is on its way.
also remember your not always right she has her own mind and rights to what she pleases!!!
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reader, pink fraggle +, writes (24 January 2007):
 i had my son at 19 with my long term boyfriend at the time. And god it was hard. I did everything and i mean everything. After an abusive relationship and 5 years of hell i had enough and went out on my own. if id have known how hard it is then i would love to have had a friend who was concerned. Tell your mate your worrys and fears. She doesnt have to listen to anyone but at least in years to come and she wants a shoulder to cry on because lifes hard she knows you tried to help.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 January 2007):
 I think she has this romantic ideal that having a child will bind her to her boyfriend and they'll be this perfect little family and all her problems will magically go away. You're mature enough to know this probably will not happen. Inevitably if she is hell bent on doing this there's very little you can do to help, unless you know someone who'd be willing to lend her their newborn baby for a weekend so she could see what it's really like. It sounds like the boyfriend isn't keen and with any luck that will be enough to stop her plans for a little while. The only option open to you (and she won't thank you for interfering) would be to tell someone older- her mum, your mum or a teacher or something and see if they can get involved but to be honest she's now at the age where if she wants to do something nobody much can stop her. Sorry to sound negative.
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