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*l Dente
writes:I was speaking to my best friend the other day (we are VERY close, she is like my sister) and she told me that at a party she was at on saturday (which I was unble to attend due to a holiday) she was very drunk and some guy (who was also very drunk) stuck his hands down the front of her trousers (everyone at the party knows each other, they are all in a tight friendship group at school). Am I right in thinking this is sexual assault. she was too drunk to fight back and although her boyfriend (who is also a good friend of mine) was there and sober, he did nothing as he didnt notice because he was texting someone. when she explained to him afterwards (the next morning), he didnt believe her... Any suggestions about what I could do to help? I've suggested she go to the police but she said it's fine and she'll get over it eventually and she doesnt want her parents to find out she was drunk (as she is only 15 and her parents are very strict). I have previously spoken to her boyfriend about a holiday we are all going on after exams in the summer and he said he was afraid to drink for the whole week because the only reason he was going was to protect her. any suggestions on something I can say to him to make him understand that it is serious?sorry if my message came all mixed up, its complicated and i've left bits out to try and make it simpler.thanks for any help given,El Dente
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I wholeheartedly agree with the previous post.
You need to support your friend all the way and perhaps even speak to the boyfriend about what happened to reinforce that it is indeed the truth and he should support her too. No man would want to believe what happened but he really does need to realise that it did.
As mentioned, these kinds of things need to be 'nipped in the bud' as if this assault goes without punishment the attacker may progress to more violent and appalling acts later in his life and potentially ruin someones life.
How would you feel if you heard in the news that someone had committed suicide because they had been assaulted by this man? Support your friend, speak to the boyfriend and make sure justice is doen (if ever it could be).
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): That'll teach her not to get drunk at such a young age.Seriously wtf was she thinking?Yes it is sexual assault... although lesser becaus eboth parties were smashed to high heaven.It is unethical to sleep with any person who is drunk, under any circumstance.Flynn 24
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (21 February 2008):
You should really encourage her to go to the police and even go with her to support her. This youth who committed this assault may graduate to more serious attacks later as he grows older so by your friend going to the police she is helping to reduce the risk for someone else later.
Many people who commit assaults count on people being reluctant to report it.
As for her boyfriend, unless he has previous experience of your friend making things up, is a jackass and no gentleman.
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