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writes:Well I have a bit of friend trouble!! I've got a friend called "Mary" and i cant trust her!! If I have a secret or something thta I dont want anyone to know and I tell her and tell her not to tell anyone! The first thing she does after is tell everyone! XXX she is one of my best friends (well she won't be if she carries on!) and I can trust my other two best mates and I feel bad when I tell them something and not her! And she has a go at me for keeping things from her!! ADVICE PLEASE!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): The friend should always respect your wishes, if she doesn't then she is not worth it!!! Get yourself some new friends and don't be afraid to tell her what is bothering you. If she wants to stay friends then she will have to change her ways.
Take care
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reader, SweetSixteen +, writes (23 January 2007):
 have you told her why you don't tell her? maybe she doesn't realise she's doing it. i'm not taking her side but maybe she can't help it. i'm not gonna tell you that you shouldn't call her your best mate cos she tells everyone your secrets cos who am i to tell you who you should and shouldn't talk to.
it just seems to me like you really like this mate thats why you want to know what to do about her, this tells me that you want to be able to share your secrets with her. make her feel as though she's a bigger part of this personal life you tell her about and than she tells everyone else, maybe than she'll realise that it really is your PERSONAL life.
let me know how it goes
remember friends are for life, keep them close
hope i helped SweetSixteen!
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 January 2007):
 She has no right to have a go at you for keeping things from her. After all you have very good reason to. You have told her things in the strictest of confidence, and she has gone behind your back and told other people.
tell her you are upset buy this, and that true friends are not supposed to tell each others secrets.
If i was you i would just be vary wary of what you tell her in the future.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): listen up,
you call her one of your 'best mates' but sh clearly isnt if she is going around spreading your secrets
if she trie to hve a go at you for wanting to keep your personal life YOUR personal life then she is the one with issues.
just explain to her that you are upset about her telling people things when you ask her not to and that is your reason for not sharing things with her anymore, if she doesnt understand then she isnt a true friend =] xx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Is she honestly surpised you won't trust her after her horrible behaviour? Real friends don't tell! Tell her she needs to show you that you can trust her before you can again. And when you do trust her again start her off on a little non important secret that it doesn't really matter if she tells everyone or not.
CD
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reader, Reebe +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Just tell her that you trusted her and she told your secrets, so now you don't feel you can trust her anymore.
Tell her if she wants you to tell her things then she has to prove you can trust her again.
Good Luck
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