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anonymous
writes:I've met this woman and we have became really close friends and she says she loves me like her husband.but not in a sexual way but now I've fallen in love with her and I told her she said it's ok I decided to end our friendship she broke down in tears saying she couldn't live without me so I stayed friends but it's really hard for me she tells me she loves me every day and we even mess around she kisses me on the lips I'm so confused what do i do ?. Reply to this Question
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reader, babalou +, writes (12 November 2014):
 My only advice then is to distance yourself. If she leaves her husband for you, which at this point is very unlikely, it would cause chaos within your family. You can still be her friend but the affair has to stop before things become messy. The kissing and whatever other inappropriate intimacy you two engage in needs to stop and you have to let go of your feelings for her and absolutely do not act on them, and don't allow her to act on her feelings either. Even if it is tempting,
It would really be much easier to cut ties but since you insist that you somehow can not do this, although I believe it's just that neither of you want that, letting go of your romantic feelings towards each other and sexual contact will have to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): I wish it was that simple as her husband is my child's uncle and she says she carnt cope without me she don't wanna lose me how can we get through this
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reader, babalou +, writes (11 November 2014):
You have to tell her that you can not keep up this affair because you really do love her. It's inappropriate for her to string you along in such a way, and while it would be a tough decision, if she really can't handle being apart from you, she will have to choose who she really needs most: you or her husband. Alternatively, you could tell her that the intimacy has to stop if she wants your friendship to continue because it is only confusing and hurting you. This will definitely be easier said than done and may result in you having to end the friendship anyway. It's not okay to cling to this married woman because you know you want more than friendship with her and it doesn't seem that she's willing to give herself to you and have a healthy, committed, monogamous relationship with you. If she is not going to give you what you really want because she doesn't want to leave her husband, do a favor to both of you and cut your ties with her.
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