A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been friends with my best friend since I was in 6th grade. We're both seniors in high school now. But slowly my friend has less and less people who want to talk to her and when asked why they say because she's a kiss-ass and she's a major major flirt. I see both of these, and I don't mind because I've always known this.But recently my friend had realized that people who she used to be friends with are trying to keep their distance and she asked me why. I told her exactly what they told me, that she's a bit of a suck-up and she is very flirtatious.She asked me to point it out whenever I see her acting like this and so I do, but when ever I do she is in complete denial about it. Not so much the sucking up part but she is very very very flirty and she just doesn't see it.She's currently trying to pursue a relationship, and I don't want her to ruin it with the guy she likes. But she can't stop flirting! She's very touchy feely with a lot of guys and giggles and plays around with them all too often. Sometimes in front of me and even the guy she's actually interested in. Yet when I point it out she gets offended and claims its not true.I really want to help her, she knows she wants to change. How can I help her see the difference between friendly and flirty?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2014):
 You can't - she is in total denial about her behavior.
Or ask her if you got her permission to record her so she can see it for herself and then record it when she isn't noticing and then play it back to her later.
My guess is she thinks she is being popular and friendly, but it comes off as fake.
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