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male
age
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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid. I'm a 31 year old gay male. A few years ago I meet a guy I'll call him Bear. Last year Bear and I met up at a part and we hit it off real well. I let him know from the start that I was gay and he was great with it. So to this day we have become best friends. But I have done a mistake of falling in love with him. And he knows it. I cannot tell if he's straight, gay, or bi.. He is so hard to read. At time I think he wants me but at times I think he does not. I need some help cause its driving me crazy. In the last few month alot has changed he's acting like he's gay and wants me. Just a few weeks ago he kissed me. Hell come out of the shower when im there all undressed. Hell come over and grab me and not in a mean way. I dont know what to do I don't want to reck something that might be starting cause I have waited along time for this to happen. Any thoughts??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Maybe talk about it with him in a casual way. Just say something like you've noticed a change in his behaviour and feel like he might want to do something. Or ask him if he wants to kiss you again! If you're worried about risking your friendship then maybe don't say anything but give him the same hints he seems to be giving you. If you don't know whether he is gay maybe he is gay or bi but has never done anything with another man before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Most gays I have met can tell if another person is the same. Okay granted you say he is hard to read but if I was gay and my friend knew it, stood there naked and kissed me, I think I would sort of get the message or is it just wishful thinking on your part?
Ask the guy for pity's sake. What can he say except yes or no? He is hardly likely to throw a fit and never speak to you again is he?
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 He has made some suggestive advances to you, so I therfore would tell him about your feelings . Tell him that you noticed some of his actions which you seemed like as if he is telling you that he wants something from you. Tell him not to be shy that its o.k. if he has feelings for you.
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 I think you just need to ask him, I can understand you not wanting to ruin your friendship, but if he already knows you like him, then if you say to him something like " have you ever thought of me more than just a friend" then he's not going to be suprised or shocked is he.
A straight guy will not normally kiss a gay guy unless he has thought about what it would be like to be with him. Maybe he thinks hes giving you signals by the kiss and coming out the shower with nothing on and your not acting on them? If a guy was to do that in front of me I would think he definatly was interested!
Go slow and steady.
Just speak to him, and see what he says.
Good Luck!
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