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writes:My ex-partner and I do not live together. We seperated, not by choice, but by illness I suppose. I have epilepsy and my partner developed hyper-vigilence and post traumatic stress disorder over me having fits. The problem being I hadnt had any seizures for 3 years and then all of a sudden they came back. So these problems meant that my partner couldn't be around me, she was scared and on full alert, heart racing etc. She tried therapy but that didn't work, she fell apart, was sleeping in the car, crying day and night and, she revealed to me this week, she tried to commit suicide. She managed to come thru this period, I'm told with my support. She told me on Sunday that she has started seeing someone else and I have just broken down and it's clear to me now that I never dealt with what happened to us. I still love her so much but now feel guilty that I didn't grieve at the same time as her and now I am holding her back. She cannot go back to the place she was in a few months ago for obvious reasons and she says she cannot go back into therapy. I told her to move on and stop going round in circles but now this has happened I've realised I haven't moved on at all. I know she still loves me but because she cannot be with me and what she has had to go thru she is adamant that it is over. "Acceptance" is the word she uses a lot but I just cannot accept that it's gone. We love each other, surely we should be together. I am in total despair and don't know what to do. It would seem nobody understands except us two. I want her back so much...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Feelin for u. My dad had had seizures till he was 13 then they stopped. First of january this year bang! Huge seizure. We were at my mums place at the time and my mum and sis were freaking out. I was just trying to stop my dad from banging his head. It was so terrible, he slipped out my arms straight to the ground. I keep saying to myself now how hopeless and weak i was for letting him drop. I keep having nightmares. It is the hardest thing when u care about someone so much to see that happen to them. Im in tears, i feel for u and your gf, i hope u can both work thru this. Good luck. f 18 aust.
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