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writes: If a friend told you that every time you both sat in a coffee shop together that the guy serving kept looking over at you and staring and she believed that he fancied you, would you believe her.My friend keeps telling me this is happening and every time he cleans the tables by us that he looks at me. Personally I think he is just probably bored and hasn't got anything else to do but she is convinced he likes me. My attitude is if he liked me or fancied me surely he would say something.He sometimes chats to me when he serves a coffee but nothing more than good customer service.I went up to him a couple of days ago as I had left him a note regarding his good customer service. He was very pleased and grateful to me, he had remembered who I was from when I had been in there and he touched my arm to say thank you. When I went in yesterday with my mum he came up to the counter and said hello ladies to us. He knows my name now so if he is interested then I assume that I will know soon enough.If you think I am wasting my time and my friend is wrong like I think she may be, please let me know as life is too short hanging round for someone who was just staring because they felt like it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI went in again to the coffee shop and he asked how I was and said that the coffee was on the house as he was grateful for the note about his customer service. I said thank you very much and then he walked round my side of the counter and walked past me and put his hand on my arm again. He then carried on doing his job.
As I left I said thank you for the coffee and he said that was fine. He knows my name but he has not used it so I assume that he was just being very polite to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): He might like you, yeah. It sounds like he does to me. But whether he likes you in a general sense or is interested in you, it is hard to say.
Yes, life is too short to hang around waiting for someone who may like you, or who was just staring because they felt like it. So why hang around any longer? It sounds like you are getting frustrated at waiting for something to happen, for him to give you a sign of how he feels. So why not make it happen? Next time you see him, why not try talking to him more? You could ask him if he would like to go for a coffee one day (at a different coffee shop!). Or if that is too forward, then maybe just strike up a conversation, ask him something about himself. It might get things moving!
But if not, and you are getting tired of waiting around, then I agree with you. Don't put your life on hold for him, waiting for a move which may never happen. I do hope it all goes well though! Good luck! x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 When a man keeps looking at you , it could be either he may fancy you, or he likes to look at you only because you are beautiful .
If he fancies you and he is the Don Juan type, he would approach you for your name and telephone number.
If he is the shy type,he will not venture out of his shell.
Definitely when a man looks at your way often , it means that he is interested in you but he just does not know how to approach you or fearful of rejections or do not have the confidence or have low self esteem or intimidated.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 February 2010):
He might be shy. Or he might not know how you feel and be wary of making a move. Why don't you try to get to know him a bit more, like when you see him ask him about himself. Your attitude of 'if he liked me, surely he would say something' is true to an extent, but not if he's shy or if he doesn't think you're interested. Get to know him more.
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