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writes: My mate had sex a few days ago with her boyfriend of 2 weeks (she is 15). She said that something popped in her and it KAINED! It hurt like HELL! It popped when they had sex. Now I am terribly worried. I never want sex cos I am so scared. I don't want sex to really hurt! :( I'm so worried about it. She said that sometimes it pops already on some women so she said mine might have popped already, even though I have never had sex or ANYTHING with a boy!What is this popping thing?How do I make mine pop before I have sex so it doesn't hurt me when im having sex?Thank you for advice. I am really worried. (Don't worry, I was never thinking of having sex under age anyway.) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2006): I am 16 and i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago. I know what your friend said about that popping because i felt that too. I found that yes it was painful, but only at that time, and i was so comfortable with my boyfriend that although it was painful we were in it togther. The main thing i can say is that you have to be relxed- dont rush into anything, i cant imagine doing that with someone i wasnt comfortable with and most of all DONT BE SCARED! I know that it is a scary thought but when you think about all of the people that do it, and when you find someone that you really like, and know likes you back- for you not just for sex, thats when it can be very enjoyable. Also i think you should tell them that you are a bit nervous, i did, and it meant he took it slowly and stopped if i asked him to.
P.S. Remember to use protection, i am really sensible and i didnt, i had to get a morning after pill and it was so nerve wracking. It so easy to get carried away- just keep your head on and dont worry. xxx good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): Well you're first time has to be sometime. But, when it comes round to it if you're really up for it you will be quite relaxed. There will still be nerves there, but you will be able to enjoy it a bit. Also the thing that "popped" can also be popped by tampons, or sports like horse riding, swimming, dancing, etc.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (25 June 2006):
 The thing that 'popped' was her hymen, a kind of layer that is within your vagina until it is damaged. This can be done by sex but is often done by tampons and general exercise before the girl first has sex.
First time sex can hurt, whether your hymen is intact or not. You have to be relaxed and it will get easier. Just make sure it's the right time and right person and make sure you're careful!
There's no need to worry about popping your 'cherry' before you have sex, it can still be a bit painful if it has already gone. Either way, you just have to be relaxed as possible.
I hope the first time you have sex is special, everyone deserves that. Wait until it's the right time and the right guy who understands you and respects you, that way you can both make it so it doesn't hurt as much.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): ive heard using tampons helps and being fingered before moving onto sex.. but i think theyre all rumours.
i lost my virginity a few months ago and sex still hurt even though id done those things. i guess you just have to get used to the pain cos it will soon start to ease off and in the end results in lots of pleasure!
but yeh.. like u said your only 15 so make sure if you are going to have sex under age its with the right person. my friend lost hers at 14 n is still with her bf after 4 years.
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