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writes:I have a relatively new friend who has always been sweet and kind towards me but said something recently that I find I am really insulted by. He commented that I reminded him of the actress Kirsty Alley. Now this may seem silly to most people, but I find her to be ugly and worse still, vulgar. This has hurt my feelings as I am concerned that he perceives me in this vein. My personality and demeanour are nothing like this woman. Are my hurt feelings my own problem and I should just suffer in silence ? Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 God I wished I looked like Kirsty Alley. I look more like her granma heheh!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): I totally agree with the anonymous female respondent to your question.
Kirsty Alley, a few years ago was to my mind one of the most gorgeous women on the planet, and I'd have crawled on hands and knees over half a mile of broken glass just for a sniff of the air in her wake!
Take it as a compliment, that's how it will have been meant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Kirstie Alley wasn't always vulgar, nor fat. In her youth I considered her to be very beautiful and so did millions. Maybe he finds her attractive and you remind him a little of her in her more beauteous days. Stop being vain and thinking about it so much, if he's your friend and a nice guy, he probably didn't mean it to offend you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys ! You know you can get bent out of shape when you are emotional and not think rationally. You are saying things that just make perfect sense. I was thinking that I should mention that I really find this actress undesirable (she made some AWFUL ads for Jenny Craig in Australia) and that I was offended by the comparison. What has weirded me out though is this thought: when I look at him I see this nice guy, a little shy who is really kind and gentle to old people - nice character traits, know what I mean ? But now, when I look at him looking at me I am thinking...he sees the loud, vulgar Fat Actress ! I am 5'9" size 12...how does that compute ?
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reader, blazee +, writes (24 July 2007):
 no the best thing to do is ask him what he meant by it and was he comparing you to that actress and her horrible ways. he is diffrent then you as everyone is diffrent and will view her in a diffrent way.chances are he was trying to compliment you and it has just gone a little bit wrong;)all the best hun x
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reader, Graciebaby +, writes (24 July 2007):
well i think if your personality is nothing like hers,then i dont think you have much to worry about.Maybe you should ask him what it is that reminds him of her.You never know,he may find kirstey alley attractive,because in my opinion i don't find her that ugly.. xxx
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