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writes:one of my friends has been acting odd the last few weeks and when we all got together she admitted that she was sexually abused when she was younger. this was a big shock and we are all supporting her through it. however i can actually relate to her because i have also been sexually abused when i was younger by my uncle but i have never spoken out before. so my question is should i tell someone or even my friends what happened to me? i don't want my friends to think i'm looking for attention though and i don't want to cause problems in my family either. I've always felt that it was better kept a secret but now its eating away at me i just don't no what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmaybe i should get it out in the open but i'm just so scared of the consequences. i feel so ashamed and humiliated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): How oddly familiar this is to something me and MY friend talked about. She and I were both victims of the same tragedy as well and both incidents were eerily similar.
She outed the man in question to her family (he was a part of that family mind you) and while I'm not sure where they all stand she's told me that personally, she feels as if a great weight has been lifted.
I on the other hand will probably take it to my grave without my family's knowledge.
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reader, unmeidaagonyaunt  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 You should ABSOLUTELY talk to someone about your abuse.
However, the first person that you tell does not have to be your friend. In fact, you may not want to go to her first just because she may be a little too close to the action (your family & other friends) for comfort. I would strongly suggest that you talk to a counselor or therapist about your feelings before you go down that route. Especially since telling her could come back to your family and cause consequences that you may not see coming, you may want to prepare yourself and get your feelings in the open to YOURSELF before you get other people involved.
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