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writes:Dear Cupid, This lad and I have kind of a secret relationship going on, we've not done anything but there have been talks that we would. So my best friend, who was telling me about her boy trouble so I told her what was going on. She said she wouldn't tell anyone, but then she told my other friend, who is very gossipy. I don't trust any of my friends but they're really good fun and who else would I hang round with if it wasn't for them. Please help me.
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):
By sharing your secret with your friend, it is no longer a secret. Just put this down to experience, your friends may be around a lot longer than your boyfriend.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (21 December 2005):
 Dear, I dont think its cool your best friend decided to tell your secret after u told her not to. She is your best friend and that is what she is there for to share things.
You mentioned here she also tells u about her relationship so i can understand why u felt more comfortable telling her about your own relationship.How could she have felt if u went around telling others what she told u. its not right or fair.
My advise is that u should confront her and tell her that u saw her as a bestfriend and wasnt really happy when u found out she told someone else what u thought could be both of your secret. If u r best friends then u should be able to talk each other if any of u have done anything to offend each other. But please do this in a matured and reasonable manner.
Also, u should be careful from now what u tell her. revealing your secret doesnt make her a bad person but a person who isnt matured to keep a secret.This doesnt mean u guys cant be friends.
Take care of yourself now
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (21 December 2005):
 Frienship is such an amusing thing. The one's you tell not to tell always tell. The one's you don't know will never tell because they don't care. My parents always told me and it still holds true to this day "If you don't want someone to know then don't tell anyone". They said alot of things but your question remindes me of this. You did say that nothing happened and that your not guilty of anything. So who cares if you joked around about it? Do you have a current boyfriend that would find out? Do you like this other person? Honestly doesn't sound like it's a big deal to me. Just remember don't trust anyone with secrets. Besides in it's raw appeal a secret is something you know that nobody else knows. So if you told anybody it's not really a secret. If you enjoy hanging around these people then do as you enjoy. HANG OUT ONLY! If this person has wronged you and your humiliated then shame on you; just don't ever tell her another thing. Fool me once shame on me; fool me twice well I'm stupid for trusting you again. Good luck. Ed
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