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writes:Hi,My problem is that a colleague of mine who is also a friend is a bit embaressing to hang out with.Now I'm sure you'll all have a go at me for being nasty and saying I'm bit a true friend etc ... So please just read my situation because I want to help her.She is very "dippy" it's the only word I can use to describe her.She us forever doing silly things like losing her purse, forgetting her car keys at work, making stupid mistakes at work like not plugging her headset in and she gets confused over the most simple things.1 day we went out shopping and she managed to lose her debit card,forgot where she parked the car and we went in to a music store and she couldn't find a cd she wanted so she started singing the song to a guy who worked there.. It was embaressing for him and me!Now the latest thing to happen we organised a cinema trip with all of us from work to watch sex and the city. After getting our tickets and queing up to go in she needed the loo. We told her to go ahead and we'd get the seats.She was gone for ages when she finally called up my mobile asking where we were as she was in the screening room but couldn't find us. I looked around but she wasn't there.. It turns out she was in the wrong cinema room!!Ok so it could happen to anyone. But then 20 minutes in to the film she got up to get a drink and on thevqsy back in shecwas climbing the steps in the cinema room (we were sat a few steps up) and she tripped and spilt her drink!She is a 43 year old woman. The only reason I can think she is this way is because her husband left her 2 years ago and maybe this is the cause for her distraction?Otherwise she has a very active social life.People at work however are starting to avoid going out when she does as they feel embaressed by her. I do to but I won't just dump her.Any ideas on what I can do to help? I don't really want to Be to honest with her as it'll hurt her feelings.Thanks
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I've heard of people acting this way just for the "attention factor" It gets attention from others because this person believes him/herself to be incapable of getting attention otherwise, as though any attention is better than none at all. IF she's really as dippy as you indicate, then it's hard to believe that she should even be out running loose and responsible for more than just feeding herself. Perhaps she believes she's somehow endearing herself to others by means of her foppish ways or she's really a flake-I think you'll need to decide for yourself. I doubt there's anything of real consequence you can do to help this person.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Shes a little clumsy. And forgetful, you cant really blame her. You cant really help her with that, plus the causes of forgtefulness and difficulty concentrating at a women of your friends age can be linked to Menopause. Memory loss is a natural part of aging and menopausal women complain of 'brain freeze' as in there brain just freezes and their unable to obtain information from the short term memory.
Menopause is a time of ectreme stress for some women, i dont know whether she is going through menopause but she's of the right age. Do you know if she has? And if the answer is yes i suggest you look up this website: http://www.epigee.org/menopause/memory_loss.html
Have a look and try other websites, this might be the cause for your friends forgetfulness or maybe shes just delightfully loopy, i know i wouldnt mind having her as a friend, though i think i already have a loopy friend haha :) xx
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